Any advice would be great

[chris3922]

So I work anywhere between 40 and 60 hours a week and have my DS every weekend. I came down with a big causing D&V and told my DS mum about it. She told me that my son had had it a week earlier and that she had to deal with. And that's probably where I got it from.My current partner isn't happy that I'm still having my son when really I have no choice in the matter as if I don't it causes arguments between me and my ex. How am I supposed to keep both happy and have a simple life. Would I be being unreasonable to say I'm not having him whilst I'm ill? I just can't seem to win either way.

Tbh as the mum i'd be worried about my ds getting it again and generally having a rubbish time with a laid up, poorly parent. Your set up sounds very unusual, how come you get every weekend? I imagine your ex gets a bit sick of doing all of the 'work a day' stuff and you getting weekends. Wrt your new partner, she must realise that you don't cease to be a parent when you get ill, presumably if your ex gets ill during the week she still has to take care of your son? But you're right, you can't win either way until your current partner understands the he full time nature of parenting!

She ordinarily understands whole heartedly. She doesn't want my son to fall ill due to me having to have him is all. We don't live together so not having him wouldn't have benefitted her or anything and she loves spending time with him anyway. I work through the week and she doesn't as she has another 2 children ( not from me ). Basically if I put my foot down with DS mum I get it in the neck if I don't my OH feels I'm being walked all over. So the weekends are the only time we get with little one. Not to mention we live opposite ends of the city so splitting the week even if I didn't work all week would still be difficult with him going to school etc

I'd personally remove your current partner from the equation - she doesn't live with you and it's really nothing to do with her. The decision should be between you and your ex.

I can see it from both sides - yes, parenting doesn't stop just because you're ill. Presumably if she had d&v during the week your son would be at risk of getting it from her... these things happen amongst family.
However, I can see that avoiding potential illness where possible is preferable - it's not fair to knowingly put him at risk.

I'd probably say that you won't have him purely because you refuse to knowingly let him get ill. Child's wellbeing trumps parents wants I think.

Your other half should know your kid comes first. Sick or not.