Eldest starting senior school

[katiep81x]

Hi is anybody else nervous to the point of not sleeping about their children starting senior school?

This was me last year! I'm really cross with myself looking back as it was, of course, fine. Try and find ways to relax and see the big picture, I'm sure your child will be fine. Anything specific worrying you?

She did have problems in feb with a boy in her class, they don't speak to each other at all now, but It knocked her confidence a bit....& he's going to same school.. I feel like I'm just wishing the six weeks away so she can go to school I can (hopefully) breathe again, it's probably just my paranoia & she probably will be fine just can't help worrying lol

Me too. Ds1 has aspergers syndrome and was only 11 last month. He's not very streetwise at all.

Me too, friendship issues for nearly two years. We have even tried to move. I wish I knew, she would be ok.

Me too
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DS has ADHD and has behaved horrendously the first few weeks of hols. He is anxious too and is calling me approx every ten minutes from his room now to see I am awake so he is not the only one awake! Also I have to promise to stay awake until he's asleep.

He has to be prompted to eat breakfast/clean teeth/ put socks on/ remember to pick up bag in hall so god help us come September

Gosh it's reassuring knowing I'm not the only one xx just why do other kids have to be so mean cos that's the bottom line for me worrying bout bullying :( if any of my children were bullies I'd be mortified x let's hope come sept we can all come on here & say they made it :) but atm I seriously am struggling with the no sleeping just wish I could stop the worrying xx

My ds is really excited, he gets to wear a blazer and there's a Lego club, what's not to like . It's me who is panicking about bullies, getting lost, teachers being stricter than primary and if he is going to cope with the extra independence. I feel silly worrying about it when he is so calm.

Elliejjtiny my daughter has only got upset once bout it she does seem pretty calm tbh & a typical pre teenager 🙄😂 lol it is me who's worrying the most just like u lol what are we like? & I worry more when it's bed time haha

I really worried about bullying. Dd went to the same school as most of her year and had felt quite unpopular at primary school. Some in her class were horrible to her and she was very quiet.
High school was such an improvement! She is accepted by her new class who are nicer and has made a big group of lovely friends. She is so much happier and has come out of her shell a bit. I worried for years and lost plenty of sleep about it but it turned out better than primary school!

Aw that makes me feel a lot better, thanks for sharing :)

Oh yes. Completely with you.
My son was really popular in primary school, and then his first six months in senior school were a disaster with bullying etc ( wears glasses, has learning disability, not sporty, none of his friends went to this school, was short). He's made some great friends now, 18 months in, but there have been times I wish I could do it for him. I spent months iterating to him that the popular kids peak in high school, and that being a geek was an advantage later in life etc- all those platitudes you find yourself spouting- with my heart bleeding for him.
But the best thing is he took them in, and determined on his own that popularity wasn't so great a goal in the scheme of things , that having social media accounts was just asking for trouble, and that being an individual was better than being a sheep. He now has no social media, sold his smart phone for a flip phone, and is completely comfortable being himself. I am so proud of my quirky little dude.

Bless him & u are so right the things I mainly say to all my children is dont be a sheep! & that they are no better than anyone & no one is better than them, they are good kids (of course they have moments lol) not one of them would want to see someone upset, it's just a shame other children do, it's just a waiting game now till sept to see how she gets on .... x x

My dd was bullied not by her peers but by the junior school HT and staff (disability issues): I was so relieved I almost wept when she left and went on to a supportive secondary school.

There is no reason bullying by other children has to be worse at secondary level: I was bullied in junior school but less so in secondary (and not at all in Sixth Form). Ds had a similar experience.

That's disgraceful, how do teachers behave like that 😡 I just don't agree with bullying at any level & don't know how parents can bring their children up to do so, but if the adults who are in charge 6hrs a day are bullies what hope do our kids have, I'm sorry to hear what happened to ur daughter but feel a bit more reassured by how she is now, unfortunately for me the bullying came when I went to senior school, maybe this is why I worry so much about my daughter x

she is an adult now so it's a long time ago, OP; my point was more that it is pointless getting stuck in the idea that one stage of your life is going to be more stressful or difficult than the previous one because you never know- her secondary were really great and supported her in every way, and her friends were good people