Sorry for a potentially long post!
I'm 36, have a 3 year old DD who I adore. I'd say I'm good a being a mum - I'm organized, happy to put myself last to make sure everyone else has what they need, I'm not great at the "Mary poppins" type stuff and aren't particularly imaginative but I make sure my DD is kept busy with dance class, gymnastics, swimming and she knows she is loved.
I feel like I'm at the point now where a second child could be an option - I like the idea of another child but the thought of going back to that needy, sleepless baby stage with a toddler in tow and full time job terrifies me. I'm already knackered looking after DD as she is such an energetic little girl.
I'm also starting to feel like I'm getting my life back a bit as DD doesn't need me as much anymore and the demands are slightly lesser than when she was younger and I have to say I do enjoy it. Having another would put me back to square one again and it would be another 3 or 4 years before I'd be back here again.
I just can't decide the way forward - I know if I fell pregnant again I'd be happy - an also terrified. I also know that I love getting time to myself again and am considering taking up much loved hobby that I had to give up when I had DD.
My DH is great but I know he also worried about the strain of having another - he got to keep his hobby but has had to scale back significantly and is reluctant to give up any more of his time which I understand although it does frustrate me as it's a hobby that he can continue into his 60's and beyond (as is mine) so he would have plenty of opportunity when the children were older. He has agreed that if I want we can have another child.
I really don't know which way to go, I do think you never regret having a child as your love for them counter balances all the stress and struggle but on the flip side, not having one could lead to guilt for a long long time.
Argh I don't know what to do!