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Cried my eyes out. Toddler accident

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Vitotitto · 08/08/2017 00:03

It's the first time we have such an accident. Our son used to have small scratches and minor bruises but this... ShockSad
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DS (2 y.o.) has an excellent habit of transferring part of his toys into our bedroom. Each day - different toys. We are putting them back every day telling him "let's bring the train (blocks, cars) back in its place (home) " etc.

This morning he was especially enthusiastic and brought lots of mega-blocks into our bed. DH was cleaning and has put all the toys into a mesh (we have for some toys), to put it back into DS's room later on, and moved it aside.

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DH was playing with DS on our bed, usual things, hugs, pretending plane... Then, son noticed his mega-blocks in the bag near the bed.

Everything happened so fast, he leaned off the bed, tried to reach them, but fell off the bed and landed on this fucking bag with his face.

He cut the skin under his eye and scratched the eyebrow. Guess it was the opposite side of one of the blocks.

He cried for several minutes in my lap, then went back to jumping and playing with some cars, smiling the rest of evening.

We cleaned the wound and put some healing gel. He did not tolerate the cold compress though.

DH went to work feeling incredibly guilty (I understand him) and I can't look at my son's eye without tears.

I was in the room; everything just happened so fast, DH had no chance of catching him. Still so so so upset. Guess we are quite lucky it's not the eye itself.

Do these things happen or are we just the clumsiest people ever?Sad

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caprifun · 08/08/2017 00:07

These things do happen, natural to feel guilty but accidents happen without being anyone's fault. We've had three a&e trips with 4yo DS, I felt a huge amount of guilt over all of them (should have been watching more carefully, etc.) . Hope DS is ok and recovers quickly.

GavelRavel · 08/08/2017 00:08

this happens to every parent, and worse, don't worry. It's heartbreaking but totally normal. in fact you've done well.ro get to toddler age before an injury. I fell downstairs carrying my 5 day old baby! (I was more hurt though)

wheresthel1ght · 08/08/2017 00:08

Oh sweetie that's awful but it genuinely is just one of those things that just happens.

My dd had been walking less than 12 hours when she wound up in A&E with concussion after running full pelt into the edge of the door frame. The crack was so loud I was convinced she had cracked her skull or the wood had split on the door. She literally rebounded backwards about 5ft. It was terrifying.

Be kind to yourself, this honestly won't be the last and probably not the worst accident he has!

Summer23 · 08/08/2017 00:10

These things do happen to us all. It's not the eye itself so it should hopefully heal quickly. You're probably more concerned than he will be!

AtSea1979 · 08/08/2017 00:13

Doesn't look like it'll scar. We've all been there at some point.

123bananas · 08/08/2017 00:13

These things happen. Children are always injuring themselves as they explore their world.

You are not clumsy, it is not your fault, but you do need to toughen up a bit. This will not be the last time he gets hurt accidentally, unfortunately they do not provide bubble wrap suits that grow with them. He had forgotten about it minutes later, try to let it go now and stop beating yourselves up about it.

I mean this kindly, if I didn't let it go I would be a gibbering wreck by now. Dc3 (3 years) thinks he is a stunt man and his far more sensible older sisters have had their fair share of accidental head injuries and bumps too.

pastabest · 08/08/2017 00:14

DD is six months old

Her injuries to date:

I tried clipping her nails at six weeks. Clipped the end off a finger
At 10 weeks she rolled off the sofa head first.
At 11 weeks I dropped a packet of frozen sausages on her head
At 17 weeks she scratched her face so deeply with her finger (I refused to cut her nails again after the incident at six weeks) she still has a scar.
At 20 weeks we were giggling and playing aeroplanes. I forgot how low the lights were in that room and bashed her head on them.
At 22 weeks DP (now designated nail cutter) clipped THE SAME finger,
At 25 weeks DP fell down the stairs holding her, grazing her head.

Now that's clumsy parenting Blush fortunately DD seems to bounce and has so far found most of the incidents hilarious rather than traumatising.

kohl · 08/08/2017 00:19

This happens to everyone-as a PP has said, you've done well to reach toddlerhood without an accident!

It is horrible when it happens, but these things do happen (too many to mention in my house thanks to stunt woman DD2 and spatially unaware DD1...) he will be fine. It really is part of growing up.

Hope you're ok-Biscuits are good for shakiness!

SecretLifeOfSam · 08/08/2017 00:24

DD1 fell down the stairs from the very top step before she could even walk - don't feel bad, OP, they're pretty bouncy.

gamerchick · 08/08/2017 00:25

Ah the first one is always the worst Flowers it looks like it'll heal fine OP. Don't worry you'll get your callus over that part that feels wretched.

Accidents happen, usually a lot earlier than this, you've done well.

ShoesHaveSouls · 08/08/2017 00:43

All 3 of mine have fallen down the stairs at some point - and we had stair gates. Each time, I've been right there - but these things can happen in the blink of an eye.

Don't feel bad - it was an accident. They happen. Sounds harsh, but your 2yr old will have learned something too - it hurts if you lunge off the bed.

ThinkOfTheHorses · 08/08/2017 00:48

It happens - when I was 4 my sister spontaneously stabbed me in the head with a garden tool - could've been much much worse - I still have the scar. Kids are fragile and stupid ( in the nicest way) and so they get hurt. Don't beat yourself up x

Spanneroo · 08/08/2017 01:02

Oh OP, it feels terrible, doesn't it? Flowers

Rest assured, though, it's completely normal, and is say you're probably doing better than most if he's already a toddler.

Our DD1 has been to A&E 5 times already and has only just turned 3. Kids do this sort of thing all the time. Please don't beat yourself up. Your son will be loving the extra attention if anything!

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Vitotitto · 08/08/2017 01:08

Thank you so much for the replies! Feeling bit better now. Yes, he looks fine otherwise. And the gel seems to be helping already (less redness).

It's just that moment when he turned his head and we saw blood under his eye. We've been really scared and shocked.

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Vitotitto · 08/08/2017 10:00

Thank you all again. It definitely looks better today.

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marmaladeforme · 08/08/2017 10:15

I ohh bless him. He'll be fine. Hope you are doing ok op. It's horrible when they have accidents.
My nearly 2 year old has massive bruises on his head and two black eyes right now. He was sat on a bench and tried to get off like he normally does but slipped and smacked his forehead on a concrete sill.
Dear god I wanted to punch myself in the face. I took to him our local hospital and they said he was fine.
If only we could protect them from everything. Take care.

PipGirl404 · 08/08/2017 10:33

Am I a terrible parent or something?
What's with all the guilt???

Accidents happen, I feel sorry for DD if anything like this happens to her but I don't start welling up and crying about it Confused

Its an accident?! It'll heal and he won't care about it in a few days 😂

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 08/08/2017 10:38

Aww. Much worse for you than for him.
When DD was 13 months she went, in the blink of an eye, from sitting playing on our bed while DH and I folded laundry, to walking off the bed landing on a radiator and breaking her arm.

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Vitotitto · 08/08/2017 22:33

I guess we made it without injuries (till yesterday) because of the trampoline Grin

We bought really good quality 11 ft trampoline with safety net (after we've noticed DS is obsessed with jumping). So if the weather is fine we spend a lot of time on it. DS jumping me watching)) even taking books with us reading there. It really helps to burn his excessive energy (he has lots and lots)

Don't know what we are going to do with his energy during winter))

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Vitotitto · 08/08/2017 22:41

Thank you all for replies, seriously. It helped a lot.

I called my mom yesterday and she was like how?? Where have you been? That's so horrible. I know it's because she was worried as well but I felt like complete sh*t tbh.

Had to remind her that my grandma dropped me (out of pushchair) when I was 6 month old. So yes, that's not new thing.

I just was really scared for the eye, it was so close. And the scar of course...

@marmaladeforme oh yes I understand! Hope he is fine now and it will heal soon!

@JohnLapsleyParlabane oh that's a serious one. Can imagine how stressful it was

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fabulous01 · 08/08/2017 22:53

When I was pregnant my work friend said... don't worry when you drop one. It does happen....
it did.... no long lasting damage done and no harm

IrritatedUser1960 · 08/08/2017 22:55

Awww don't blame yourself these things happen to the best of us. I must have spent hours crying over incidents like this and the little chap (now 35) doesn't remember any of them Smile

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