6 week old crying constantly, PLEASE HELP!

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My dd cries from morning until night! No amount of holding, feeding, swaddling, white noise settles her. Sometimes being in the car works but as soon as we're out she cries.

She is bf but even that is a struggle, she kicks her legs and squirms even after getting wind up. She's been checked for tounge tie. I've had mastitis twice and so worried about getting it again.

I have a 16 month old too and I'm finding it sooo hard I feel like she's constantly watching peppa pig and she has to sit listening to her dsis cry alllllll day, I feel so guilty.

I bought a mamaroo today thinking that might help but nothing.

I seriously don't know what to do and dread each day!

Thank you still I will, I'm a chocolate and veg fan so definitely worth looking into!

Maybe have a look at 'swaddling' a baby my DMIL showed me how to do this (worked best with a stretchy holey blanket) no idea if this is Ok to do now as this was over 15 years ago. She came and wrapped my DS up like a bag of chips with his head stuck out and sat him up like that and rubbed his back.
I used to gently stroke the bit between his eyebrows and he'd sort of briefly zone out and sometimes forget to cry.
It took a few weeks for them to spot the thrush and that was docs not HV - I'd been on antibiotics then must have got thrush and passed it on.
Putting on some loud music helped sometimes (me more than him probably!)

OP, my ds 'only' had colic and it was such a tough time. Anytime someone told me 'don't worry, he'll grow out of it by 16 weeks', I just wanted to throat punch them. Oh, ok, I'll just tell my crying inconsolable infant and my screaming nipples that, shall I?????

Agree swaddling might help if you've not tried it before, it was the only way my DN would sleep.

If you are thinking of cutting things out of your diet, have a read of Dairy and toy food sensitivities in bf babies first

*other food. Not sure why it says toy

I hope you have some support, you must be exhausted. Definitely push for an answer tomorrow. This might be the hardest few weeks of your life but it won't be forever. You're other DD will be just fine, she knows you love her and she won't remember anything other than how amazing it was that she got to watch so much Peppi Pig

Will your little one sleep in the Car seat in the house? I know it's not recommended but my little girl would only sleep in her car seat ( with me rocking it really fast) during the day. She was also a crier and although I feel terrible admitting this it made it really hard to like her 🙊 I found it relentless and boring and awful! She did have colic & I gave her gripe water which helped. I also walked round the park with my earphones in & her in the car seat part of the pram which helped her sleep! Its miserable for everyone hope you get on okay at the GP tomorrow!

Forgot to say, if you have someone at home, send them out for a drive now so that you can get sone sleep. My DS had tt and that was the only way I survived

My dp is so supportive but there's only so much he can do with being at work nd shwang I do rub above her eyes but can only do this when she's sort of settled as it seems to irate her more, even if I look at her it does.

And orange I know I ask myself how people coped years ago with multiple children and no mod cons!

I feel for you, my son was the same. I "think" he had refund and we tried ranitidine and omeprozole but nothing worked. He just grew out of whatever it was.
Don't go down the route I did though... I drove myself insane cutting things out of my diet, none of which helped, and also drove my GP and paed insane stressing about reflux. In the end nothing helped and both baby and I were very stressed. Try to stay calm and rational, it will definitely pass

Lol thank you Luna and orange yes she sometimes will but I'll only let her in it if me or my partner are constantly there to watch her as I know it's not recommended so we have to keep checking her and I wouldn't let her sleep overnight in it

We had odd bouts of constipation but gave her cool boiled water, sometimes with a bit of prune juice in and she was fine. My daughter was never sick either

Yes I used to watch her sleep in it, rock it with my foot & watch something on the tv. And just enjoy the quiet! She never slept long though, maybe 45mins max and that was all so no chance of sleeping overnight lol! You just do whatever you can to get by. I have worked in SCBU and soothed hundreds of babies over the years, thought I had the knack but not with my own lol! Also does she have a dummy? That & a fluffy blanket really helped my little one fall asleep!

I made notes to take to my Gp, she asked what I thought, i said silent reflux and she agreed, here was my list:
grimace/screwed up face like tasted something bad
Crying during/after feeds. During will still take the bottle for a sip then start crying and writhing again
Arches back/goes stiff/squirms a lot/pulls feet up to tummy and curls into a ball
Gurgling tummy
Drools a lot
Sucks fist a lot
Wet sounding hiccups frequently which make her cough then cry and sound wheezy
Even when held upright for 30 mins post feed, if laid down will still get hiccups and occasionally bring up a clear/milk streaked liquid which upsets her
Feed amounts have dropped from an average of 4oz to 2/3oz
Grunts and squirms a lot when in bed
Wakes up from some naps screaming and can't be re settled
Sunday cried/moaned a lot of the day, 6pm feed started taking it but within a couple of minutes her stomach started churning and she cried, tried again she wanted it but after a sip pushed the bottle away and refused the feed. Was very distressed every time we laid her down and was very hard to distract.

You poor thing, it will pass but i know that doesn't help whilst you're in the thick of it. For your own sanity, try and get a few little breaks away from the crying.

I found this website helpful (more so than the UK version) reflux

Can I ask about her poo too if that's not TMI? Is she regular or does she seem to swing between constipation and diarrhoea? Is there ever mucus in her poo and does her tummy ever swell up?

Ineedwine so much if that sound she like my Dd! Seriously. Face that looks like she's just sucked a lemon, hiccups, sucks fists, arching, she has a dummy but will only sometimes take it and everyone is does go between a lot of poop to nothing.

Today I had to hold some warm water on her bum as she hadnt been for ages and I could tell she was hurting and after about 15 minutes a lot came out! Like a lot

The problem with the internet is that reflux, tongue tie and Cow's Milk Protein Allergy (CMPA) can all sound really similar.

If she's having hiccups and constipation, I'd definitely read up on CMPA. Do you eat much dairy? Do you manage to read the Kellymom link?

This sounds just like the first 5 months of my LOs life. No more than 20 mins sleep two - three times in the day, then awake for large parts of the night. So. Much. Screaming. Inconsolable agonising crying with tears running down his face. In the end the heath vision only started taking it seriously because he screamed non-stop for 45 mins wth her next to him despite me trying to feed , cuddle, rock him, and do anything I could to soothe him. He suffered with constipation - which we mostly managed with orange juice (drunk in large quantities by me) and eczema.

After 5 agonising months they realised I wasn't mad / it wasn't just colic that would 'go away' but that he was actually in agony with severe dairy intolerance. I take the PP point about not spending forever cutting things out of your diet but I would very strongly recommend considering this.

Once we cut out dairy - and got prescription only formula for any formula feeds - he was a different baby. He didn't cry, he slept. Honestly I think it took him a long, long time to forgive me for the 5 months of misery he endured. He must have felt like he was telling me over and over but that I just wasn't listening. Sometimes now when he is in pain with teething I see this awful frightened look on his face like the pain is going to start again and not stop and I feel devastated.

It is so hard when people brush you off but if deep down you know something is wrong then keep pushing. What you describe is not normal and you and your LO should not have to 'cope with it'.

Good luck.

There are a few simple solutions..... Most babies w. colic have gas problems or upset tummy. You can try using grip water, gas drops, baby's magic tea. It is all natural. The only thing that helped my daughter was I swaddled her and put her belly button on my shoulder and patted her back, no lie she usually stopped crying and usually passed gas a few times as well.

Sounds very much like reflux. Do you have a sling? I used one a lot with ds who had bad reflux, the upright position helped a lot.

Ok Im now thinking it could be down to dairy! She does have dry skin and like red patches and at certain times the skin in her face looks irritated and it's almost like she's trying to rub her face into me to get rid of an itch.

I eat so much dairy, cheese, cereal, yogurt breakfast bars, frozen yogurt, all the quick and easy go to things I i can just nibble on. We had pizza for tea as it's just quick and easy food :(

Swaddling over the shoulder only works sometime and she gets so warm from crying and getting worked up I take her out of it and she cries in the sling!

I feel like I'm putting down peoples suggestions but it's because I've genuinely tried most!

At first I was thinking it might be tt but the more information you give, the more I think it's CMPA.

I have no advice but as a survivor of a baby who screamed from 2 weeks to 17 weeks you need and .

I remember how just how shit it was. It will pass

Actually... have you tried a dummy? soaked in gripe water