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Please help! Court hearings and spiteful baby dad.

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Tyetye17x · 04/08/2017 07:03

This is a long shot but I really need advice!

My little girl is 7 months old, I left her dad when she was 5 weeks. He didn't make much effort with her after I left him and when allowing him to see her he threatened to break my face and refuse to return her. Due to this i said he can see her in a contact centre until a court order is in place.

2/3 weeks later the police had asked me to come in due to him making false allegations against me for assault and ABH. When attended the officer organised contact and confirmed my daughter will be returned. Due to the police officer confirming to me that she will be returned i allowed her to go to her dads house for 3 hours that friday.

When going to collect my daughter he refused to give her back to me. I then attended court representing myself as i did not qualify for legal aid. I did not get to see my daughter for a month. Her dad had made false allegations against me to domestic violence, social services, police and courts.

When attending court they granted split parenting so we both have her half a week!

Her dad is doing everything to emotionally break me and take her from me because I don't want to be with him. The worst thing is that the courts aren't asking for evidence of what he is stating!!

He is her dad and will always have a relationship with him. I am at that point now where i am extremely low and depressed and cannot take anymore lies about me of abuse from him. He calls me a 'slag' 'scat bag' 'an oven to my daughter' 'a mother by name'.

I am only 20 years old and just really need some advice from mums. Please if you have any advice it would be appreciated.

Thanks

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 06/08/2017 15:13

Really sorry Tye I don't have any experience or advice but didn't want you to go unanswered.

It might be worth ringing or emailing your Court to see if they know where you can get sone help. At our local Court there is a Legal Companion Service where you can get legal advice, file preparation and note taking in Court Hearings.

Orangebird69 · 06/08/2017 15:16

I can't believe any court could decide that half a week with each parent is beneficial for a 7mo????

Coconut0il · 06/08/2017 16:44

Do you have any support? Are your mom or dad around? I'm not sure exactly but I don't think you actually have to have contact with him even if you are sharing custody, a third party could do the hand overs.
Do you have an income? I would feel as you do, heartbroken to be away from my DC but you need to think long term. Start saving anything you can. Have as little contact as possible with the father. Make a record of everything that is said/done. Get professional help as soon as you can afford it. Good luck Flowers

EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 06/08/2017 16:52

Have a look at this too @Tyetye17x

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