Hi, I'm just looking for some advice on how to handle a reoccurring situation. I have two kids to a previous marriage (14&10) My ex husband and I are both remarried. We both remained good friends and had a very good relationship despite having other partners. Any way he met his current wife and was living with her within 3 weeks, she has two kids the same age as mine (roughly). My kids instantly started to resent the situation as their Dad gave up his house, which included all their things and their bedroom to move in with this girl (now wife) My daughters had to sleep on blow up beds on the floor and the new partners parenting techniques were completely opposite to what my kids were used to. In a short period of time my teenager and ten year old were aware of drug paraphernalia including all the wonderful names for cannabis and how it's weighed for sale etc. I confronted their Father and received a call from his partner telling me she was in fact going to kill me. I am not scared of her in the slightest but I am scared of the lifestyle they are showing my children. I went to court after a long list of things I just couldn't accept for my kids. The courts removed all rights except 6 hours a week to see my youngest daughter. They are not allowed to stay over etc any more! Any way this court order has been in place for roughly a year but they still can't just leave it be. His wife isn't meant to come to my area but she's here every single time, stands outside my gate with her dogs, they have now just moved from one end of the city to the next street to us. Despite all that I'm worried for my kids. They hate visiting because they desperately want to see their Dad but they are forced in to kissing their 'Mum' and have to tell her they love her. She posts on social media about her four kids but rarely even sees my teenager. She makes them refer to her kids as siblings and their Dad makes them address her as Mum on greeting cards etc which are then posted online. My kids have told me yesterday that their Dad gives them a kiss Goodbye outside me house and each time he reminds them to kiss their 'Mum' goodbye. My teenager hates her but my ten year old says she's so scared of me seeing these things in case my feelings get hurt and she feels forced into these situations. The courts and mediators have addressed this with their Dad as both children had to talk to an independent child worker so they could get a true picture of what was happening and still he keeps manipulating them. It's starting to make me lower myself with anger and I can't help but be angry that she somehow feels like she's due credit for the wonderful kids that I have raised so far. Someone please tell me it will be ok and that my kids won't turn to their kid of lifestyle of drink, drugs, unemployment and criminal records. TIA