Sad we have decided no more children

[Lorddenning1]

Good afternoon

We have a 6 year old boy and a 6 months old baby boy and we have decided that due to finances and child care cost to stop at 2 children, I'm 29 and I feel really sad that I won't ever be pregnant again :( has anyone else felt the same and how have you dealt with it?

We have decided the same. I have a 4 year old and an 18 month old. I do feel a bit sad and, at nearly 38, I guess I won't be able to have kids if we changed our minds in 5 years time. I just don't think I could go through it again at the moment though. You're only 29 so have time if you both became broody in the future.

It's the cost of childcare that is the main issue, it will be £900 a month when I go back work so I couldn't imagine paying more, if we stay at 2 we can have a nice life and go on holiday etc but if we had a 3rd we would always be scrimping and will have nothing left over after bills etc :( it just makes me sad that I will never take another test or thing a baby kick in my belly again, I do have a 6 month old and I'm clinging onto him and not wanting him grow up too fast, his first will be my last :(

Op you are pretty young in terms of more babies.why dont you try not to think about it and you can rethink in a couple of years.

I know exactly what you mean OP, however I think what I want is the attention of pregnancy and the great surprise it brings, plus the loveliness of a newborn. I don't actually want more than 2 kids in my house or 2 teenagers!!
You do have time though if you changed your mind so don't feel too sad.

it reads like you would be sad if you had 3 or 5 children already, it's the thought of stopping that's got you down.

When I felt broody for more... it was hormones. It was not me or my true heart. The feelings got better by themselves as the hormones faded (they fade the longer it is since you last had a baby, I reckon).

I have 4 DC. The leap from 2 to 3 was hardest for me, didn't make me shine, & made all my life more complicated. You are young enough that it's quite worthwhile to delay that decision for yrs to make sure you're willing to take it on.

Will your finances change over the next few years? I wouldn't make any final decisions with six month old.

Your only 29, you could have both in school and have another then?

It's difficult though I appreciate. I'd love a third too, but I worry I wouldn't have the money, time and patience that child deserves.
I'm also looking forward to enjoying the kids I have as they grow. I don't want to be pinned down with a newborn and miss out on fun activities with them.

We decided to stop at 2 for a few reasons, money, little help from family, size of car etc
I feel a bit sad that i wont be pregnant again. I had 2 prem babies and never got to hold either of them when they were born, which is all i wanted to be able to do 🙁 even though i know i'm lucky to have them, i feel like i missed out on a 'proper' pregnancy and birth experience.
I dont think i could cope with anymore at the moment mind 😂

Unless we win the lottery (which we don't play) our circumstances won't be changing, I just loves being pregnant, the anticipation of it all, wondering who the baby will look like etc but like you said I'm still young enough to have more, so "never sag never" even though deep down I know we won't x

I know where you are coming from, I have 2 of similar ages to you and for various reasons I will 100% not be having more.

I do feel a hint of sadness sometimes that I will never experience those things again but I try to remind myself that these feelings are hormonal. Women are built and 'designed' to want to reproduce as if we didn't the human race would gradually decline, if you spoke about your desire to have 3 children, in terms of wanting a bigger family etc. It would be more logical but the cravings to be pregnant/have a baby are more natural urges than actually wanting a child.

I feel the same, my youngest is 5 months and have a 2 and 4 year old. When I think back to the birth, holding baby for first time and all the new moments I get dad to think we're done. But oh wasn't keen on 3rd so definitely doesn't want a 4th. I'm 32 so there's always time I guess but don't want a huge age gap, also like the idea of moving on to new things with them