Please help! Potty training

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My ds is 3. He can and will use the potty for wees and poos. When he wants to only then!
He'll happily pee in pants. We have a sticker chart, it makes no difference. He gets lots of praise for using it but he's not bothered.
At nursery when the other kids are using the potty/toilet he's still not fussed. It's his way only. He starts pre school in September and I don't want him to be the only one still in nappies but what can I do?

This might not be a popular suggestion but have you thought about using smarties? Once my son connected wees in the potty got him a sweetie but in his pants didn't he suddenly became very motivated. I was able the phase out the smartie after about two weeks.

Thank you, that might be the way to go as I've tried everything else but don't want to force it too much and have him go backwards. He's my first so all I'm thinking is he should be potty trained by now and I'm failing.

Don't worry about him not being potty trained by three. Another tip is to make changing him out of wet clothes a bit of a drawn out process. If he is just going in his pants because he wants to keep playing then make it quicker for him to go on the potty if you see what I mean? Rather than a quick wipe and change make it him help with everything (double positive here because it will encourage independence) and take him to the bathroom, sit him on the potty etc.

We've just gone down the sticker chart route with dd and have promised a 'sweetie' (one of those softie multivitamins) for every 10 stickers. Total bribery but it's worked wonders!

Bribes, and loads of them. I used to have a treat box and when he used the toilet properly he got a treat.

That was for my eldest. My second eldest almost managed with no fuss at all over about three days, so don't think the treats will ruin everything.

The treats were a bit over the top but they worked and at that time I had a 2 year old, a 1 year old and was pregnant so I reckon I was allowed!

We already do the sticker chart and 10 stickers gets him a little hot wheels car but I think I'm going to have to up the bribery stakes with chocolate buttons/smarties
He's been using the potty when he decides for wees for about a year now and just recently did a poo unprompted I was practically screaming with joy when he did that 😂
But there's no consistency, he used it once today after 2 pairs of wet pants and then demanded a nappy, I gave in because I don't want him to see any of this as a bad thing or punishment etc. It's just so hard.
I'm hoping when he's in the pre school room of his nursery in September they'll help him a lot more.
Trial and error I suppose, I see so many kids fully trained by three I guess I feel that I'm doing something wrong.

I'd say your doing quite well, I've only got girls (starting potty training now with dd2 who's almost 2), however all my friends had boys and it was a little longer with them than my dd.
Chocolate always a winner, I always asked my dd to do wee every 45-60 minutes I just put her in potty and I think she got so fed up of my asking she ended up just going when she needed, poo's took much longer! Took her until she was 3 1/2 before we mastered no pooing in knickers

Oh and pre school will definitely help things along, your doing really well, with our first we tend to worry more, he'll be fine.

Watching with interest. My 3.3yo is exactly the same. He's perfectly happy for me to do everything for him. He likes getting a sticker but is not bothered if he doesnt get one. Ive started trying to put him on the loo every hour but its difficult with a mobile 1yo. Although the 1yo might be trained before his brother.