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Should I give DD the Master Bedroom

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levegal7 · 29/07/2017 11:43

My DD bedroom is very small. She is starting high school in September and will want a desk to study and have sleep-overs with friends so I am considering letter her have my bedroom and putting my double bed in hers (I am a single parent). However, I am concerned about the message this will give her? I would welcome some advice. Many thanks.

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levegal7 · 29/07/2017 12:16

Hi thanks for your reply. I am concerned that the message would be that my DD is higher in 'status' than me - her parent - more important in some way (even thoigh she is of course in all other areas). Also perhaps sending a message of not valuing myself which in itself sends out a negative message. Also, I was thinking that when I finally meet someone we will be sleeping in a bedroom where one 'can't swing a cat around' (as the saying goes)

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levegal7 · 29/07/2017 12:17

I live in a semi with 2 bedrooms only.

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fishfingerSarnies · 29/07/2017 12:19

I had the master bedroom when I was that age I never felt higher in status than my mum!

ijustwannadance · 29/07/2017 12:20

Teens spend a lot more time in their bedrooms that most adults. I think it's a lovely thing to do.

PlugUgly1980 · 29/07/2017 12:22

You're reading too much into it...I think it's a lovely idea! My sister and I had the larger rooms when we both lived at home. Didn't think anything of it, just that we had more stuff and needed space for desks, etc. If go for it, I'm sure she'll love it and be grateful of the extra space.

Mummamayhem · 29/07/2017 12:24

No do it! My children have the bigger rooms...they have far more stuff than me and use their rooms to play in etc whereas I just need somewhere to sleep.

ANiceSliceOfCake · 29/07/2017 12:27

I'd do it but say that it needs to be kept tidy etc, no need to have all her stuff all over the house if she has the bigger bedroom.

CauliflowerSqueeze · 29/07/2017 12:29

I think you should keep your bedroom.
You could get her one of those beds with a desk underneath?

chowmeinchick · 29/07/2017 12:30

I think it would be a nice thing to do as long as you're happy with it.
If it's going to help her out with school work, spending time with friends, and you want to do it, then it's not a problem.

Me and my mum used to swap bedrooms in our house (it was just me and her in a 2 bedroom house - one room was bigger, one was smaller - it was nice to swap around and have the space) m

Needsomeflapjacks · 29/07/2017 12:35

I have always had the smallest room since having dc. Had a sofa bed in the dining room at one point!!

TestTubeTeen · 29/07/2017 12:53

You know 'master bedroom' is a wanky estate agents term, and doesn't actually mean that the person in that room is 'master ' (shudder) of the household?

When I saw your thread title my first thought was what a horrible (and sexist) term 'master bedroom' is, only to find that you are actually considering status and 'message'.

Just look at it in practical terms. Can she fit a single bed and good desk in the smaller room? With pull out bed for guests? Is there a good quite space elsewhere in the house for homework and study? And a shelf for all her books and files?

Make the decision that bests suits the running of your household. It is your job as adult and parent to make good decisions that support everyone's needs. THAT is your status, not weirdness about 'master' bedrooms!

imjessie · 29/07/2017 12:58

Speak to her about and explain why you are doing it .

ProphetOfDoom · 29/07/2017 13:06

Will DD actually study in her bedroom and does she do lots of sleepovers? Or is that what you imagine will happen?

Mine do their h/w downstairs at the table, on the floor or at a desk in the dining room as I like to supervise at a distance their internet; sleepovers are in the holidays and don't happen very regularly. There's lots of ideas on Pinterest and Ikea's website for making a functional small space work. That said, if you both think it's a great idea, why not?

rollonthesummer · 29/07/2017 13:24

My youngest DD's room is tiny. She has no room for a desk but does her homework at the dining table. If she has a sleepover-they sleep in the lounge. Or they top and tail in her bed!

jacketej · 29/07/2017 13:27

We've swapped in our house, eldest has the master bedroom. He needs space doing GCSE art and needs room to do everything. He loves it..he's spends pretty much all his time in his room. Whereas we just go there at night time so it does make sense. It's never crossed his mind about status etc. And don't think it ever would!

Pommes · 29/07/2017 13:30

You could give it to her as a present for starting school? Doing so would make her realise it's a generous offering, as opposed to an entitlement. But to be honest I think you are over-thinking this. Chances are that she'll use her room more than you do.

DelphiniumBlue · 29/07/2017 13:37

If the bedroom that isn't the master bedroom is big enough to have a double bed in it, how big is it? Couldn't it fit a desk and pullout bed?

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