To think social media harms more than it helps

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I follow a few mums on Instagram with age gaps similar to dc (17 months) some who I don't know in real life. One is constantly posting ridiculous quotes with her beautiful children, handsome husband and clean, sophisticated house (white furniture!) If I have to see one more pic of her dd eating a apple on their impeccable lawn with her looking gorgeous in the background ("how embarrassing, hubby caught me in my yoga gear!") I will scream.
I live in a shithole, my kids are having cold pizza for breakfast, YouTube is on endlessly and I'm trying to decide whether to pay the nursery fees now and have to live off nothing all weekend or pay them late so we can get the bus to the park. I feel her constant lack of realism at best is depressing but possibly dangerous for others who may not understand that it's all bullocks. Why can't this woman be a true role model and admit that she has a cleaner, personal trainer, nanny, on call hair stylist? Am I being over sensitive?

Just block her, or get off social media completely if you don't like it.
No one is making you read her posts.

Social media doesnt make anything in my life worse.

If it did i would delete it. She can post whatever she wants and portray ehatever she wants. If it makes you feel bad dont follow her.

Absolutely, it's all selling a dream and it can be very damaging to people who don't realise that. Was interesting when a few of the clean eating vloggers exposed it all as a sham, they were spending hours setting up "casual" photos and actually had become very unhappy people, but you'd never have guessed it from their blogs.

I think that social media is only as truthful as the person using it. I wonder about people who post "perfect" lives on social media, they must be very unhappy if they have to stage photos to show people. Same with overly filtered pictures or self deprecating but not really photos.

But that's what social media does, allows us to represent the best versions of ourselves. As soon as you realise this the less it will bother you. Why don't you just unfollow her?

Everyone put their best foot forward though.

At work i am calm, cool and collected. Everyone talks about how good i am in a crisis and confident. My director always asks me to take charge if their is a crisis. They don't know i am a bag of nerves and winging it most of the time. They dint know i went back to house 3 times this morning because i forgot stuff (at one point i still had slippers on).

They dont know i had a 6 year old hanging off me while i tried to dress and got in the car swearling like a trooper.

Nor would i want them to. My job relies in me being calm, organised and ready to take charge. So thats what i want them to see.

I think there's a difference between not letting everyone at work know that your home life is chaotic and what this woman is doing. She is a motherhood and lifestyle blogger but the damaging part is that she paints her life as completely realistic. I think we all agree now that overly skinny models contribute to eating disorders so when will we realise that these 'lifestyle bloggers' contribute to depression, in particular PND?

I agree.

But you could say how i present at work makes other people feel inadequate.

Its an act. A work persona. This woman on social media is working. She is presenting a work persona. Thats her job. She has decided her blog is about presenting a perfect life. She is using social media to progress that job and people respond to it.

I am not saying its exactly the same. But most people present a different side of themselves at work. People followimg ger nees to realise this is her job and how she presents herself is her choice.

I am curreny sat on the sofa with pjs a long cardi, teeth and hair unbrushed, while ds watches spiderman. I dont eant anyone at work to see that

There's a big 'instamum' scene in my county. I happen to know a couple of them in Rl. What they portray isn't their real lives. If you are good at taking photos then it's very easy to manipulate your circumstances. If they make you feel insecure unfollow.