Dummy refuser - should I just accept it?

[SleepForTheWeek]

When DD1 was young I tried desperately to get her to take a dummy to stop her using me quite so much as a means to fall asleep. Must have tried about 6 different brands to no avail - I ended up using my pinky which was a huge mistake. I used to be so jealous of parents who were able to give their LOs a dummy when starting to get tired then they would just fall asleep, instead I was feeding/rocking/slinging/pinkying to sleep all while she screamed murder.

Anyway, DD2 is 6 weeks old and I really would like her to have a dummy to help her settle instead of me feeding/rocking her to sleep - I just don't have the time with a toddler to entertain too!

So far she's following in her big sisters footsteps and mainly gagging on them and pushing them out with her tongue. She has occasionally taken one, but as time goes on she's getting less and less keen. I've tried them at different times (when she's happy/tired/agitated etc) and so far I have tried :

Avent newborn
Maam
Nuk
Philips silicon pacifier (ugly as, looks very clinical!!)

I've had most success with the last on the list, but it really is ugly and she's still not overly keen.

Should I just accept that she's not going to take a dummy? Or is perseverance key?

I never had a dummy for any of my dc, it sounds like you're making work for yourself, personally I'd forget about it,

I never had a dummy for any of my dc, it sounds like you're making work for yourself, personally I'd forget about it,

I gave my 9 month old a dummy (desperado) so it's never too late!

Sandy I just think it's preferable to having to keep fobbing my 2yo off while I try endlessly to settle her - maybe i need to lower my expectations though!

I didn't want my son having a dummy, I was totally against it. I only gave him one for my grandads funeral because he did like sucking his hands and whatever he could, in case he screamed half way through. I wish I hadn't, he didn't need it because he was only 3 weeks old so slept the whole way through and ever since he's wanted one to settle to sleep. Thankfully, he's 13 weeks now and isn't so clingy and rarely has it now, unless he's really getting his nappy in a twist but honestly, if she doesn't want it, count your lucky stars. It's much easier to not give them one than to wean them off it. I got lucky that he just wasn't interested by 11 weeks but most of the baby's I know scream bloody murder when trying to be weaned of a dummy x

My two won't take a dummy but I can't say I'm upset about that. I just make sure I take him off my nipple when his sucking becomes rhythmic and his eyes close. If you do want to try again, someone told me to tap the dummy with your finger to mimic a heartbeat then it feels more like a real nipple...

I think young children need some sort of comfort while falling asleep, be it s dummy/teddy/blanket/thumb/boob.

DD1 is 2.5yo and although I tried dummies and pushed a comforter teddy on her firm birth - her comfort (since weaning off the boob) is my hair. So, she strokes my hair until she falls asleep which can be 5-60mins.

I don't want a repeat of this!!

My expectations were always low and I never found my dc needed anything to go to sleep, tbh it didn't occur to me to offer anything but I know things are different now. It just seems silly to me to force a dummy on a baby that doesn't want one then have all the hassle of weaning off it in the future.

My expectations were always low and I never found my dc needed anything to go to sleep, tbh it didn't occur to me to offer anything but I know things are different now. It just seems silly to me to force a dummy on a baby that doesn't want one then have all the hassle of weaning off it in the future.

I wanted my daughter to take one as a newborn as I think research has shown it can help to prevent SIDS, but she would have nothing to do with it.

Babies need a comforter and mummy's boob is the best. They need closeness of the mummy too. It's very important for them. If your baby refuses dummy that's very good.
It is hard when you have a toddler to entertain, I know, I also have a toddler who is now 3 and a baby who is 6 months and I'm exclusively breastfeeding. It was hard for my toddler at the beginning but he got used to now and he learnt to play on his own when mummy is breastfeeding the baby. My baby also doesn't take dummy at all. And I'm glad she doesn't. My 3 years old still uses dummy and it's so hard to stop it that I wish I never gave him one.