Utter failure and crushing guilt

[monkeysee100]

My dd has just had several teeth taken out due to decay and to balance her mouth and I just feel like the worst mother in the world.

We've done all the wrong things- constant snacking (especially fruit), allowing her to be given sweets and treats from others, not using correct toothpaste, not brushing thoroughly enough and she has a genetic condition which causes her pain at night which means medicine in the wee small hours. I feel like I've ruined her beautiful smile.

I'm pregnant with number 2 and feel like I don't deserve children. It's just reminding me of when she was diagnosed and I feel like crap

What kind of things was she eating and drinking day to day? What did she snack on?
Loads of parents over feed children on fruit in my opinion but see it as being healthy...I don't know what the recommended daily amount is. I read somewhere that the whole 5 a day thing has been really bad for kids teeth.
Why was her toothpaste wrong and how often was she brushing?

How old is she?

Could the genetic condition also be affecting the strength of her teeth?

Also some medication affects the teeth directly, regardless of when you give it or how well you brush. Dd has one tooth where the enamel failed to develop almost certainly due to medication given. Nothing to do with dental hygiene or diet.

Who told you the toothpaste was wrong?

Lots of parents -me- do all that stuff and there kids teeth are fine. Its just bad luck.

When I was growing up (90s) I never brushed my teeth at night and ate loads of sweets and chocolate. I'm not saying its good but my Mum was great, curtains not shit.

When I clicked on this I thought it was going to be something really awful.

Their

And I think I meant certainly not curtains.

Off to bed for me.

Had she had regular dental check ups, surely they caught it as soon as they could?

Loads of us do all of the things you've said I think it's bad luck that your dd's teeth have suffered. I'm willynilly with the kids teeth and dreaded the dentist but got told their teeth are fab

I mucked up my daughters teeth with bloody Ribena 28 years ago. I did feel guilty but she has lovely adult teeth now so all will be fine if you start good practices now.