Newborn has become too settled in mine and daddy's bed! HELP

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So basically the other night LO (2 weeks old) would not settle so I put her at the side of me so she could hear my heartbeat for comfort and have a little cuddle before placing her back in her Moses basket...well silly mummy fell asleep and so did LO (I know it was a stupid mistake) when I woke in the morning she was still snuggled up to me but I couldn't help but feel so bad because I could have put her in danger as she is so young...but the problem is now that from that one night she has become so settled in our bed that she will not sleep in her Moses basket now 😐 Has anyone else had this issue? Some advice would be really great 👍 I love having her close whilst I sleep but with her being so young I can't help but panic that something could happen...also the mr doesn't like the idea her being in the bed due to the stories you hear about baby suffocating (which is understandable) but he doesn't understand how hard it is now to actually get her out of the bed 😣 xx

Buy a sleepyhead or a cocoonababy. They keep them safe in the bed with you (up high between your pillows) and after a month or two you can transfer the whole thing into the cot and hopefully they won't notice the transition.

It's possible for a baby to sleep in your bed safely - you can look up guidelines for co-sleeping safely.

Honestly, it's perfectly usual for babies to prefer to sleep close to you - and it won't last forever. You're not making a rod for your own back, or anything like that, you're just letting your baby sleep in a cosy place where she can smell you, and know that you're close.

Do it properly though, and you should be quite safe (agree though, it can feel a bit scary).

How to safely cosleep www.dur.ac.uk/resources/isis.online/pdfs/ISIS_bed-sharing_2014.pdf

Yes it is not good to cosleep if you are not doing it safely but it is the most natural thing in the world for your baby to be close to you. Babies can't regulate their own temperature and breathing so they need your body near to them to do it for them.

I find cosleep with just with DH in the spare room. Is this an option for you?

We had a snuzpod so the baby was right beside me, but on their own mattress.

I co-slept with mine from birth and they all now sleep in their own beds quite happily.

Look at the guidelines. The tragic stories about babies suffocating usually come from risk factors that the UNICEF guidelines minimise or remove.

When DS was in hospital as a baby, I was told the hospital policy was not to encourage cosleeping. Nevertheless I had him in the drop down bed with me rather than the enormous cot. Every morning a member of staff would come to ask me why on earth my baby had cried so little in the night!