Advice Please

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The father of my child .. is in the army, known each other 12 years knew we'd end up together, had a baby etc.
3 months ago, he left me & the baby & was sticking it in someone else. It crushed me.
He came crawling back, did the "biggest mistake of my life" act.
The mug I am with our history, I've attempted another go (no judgment necessary on this part).
However - being in the army, he spends l week away from me & our DD.
Whilst attempting to "'make it up to me" - he was here every second of every weekend to see me and our daughter.
Now, he's out with his mates (who he also never sees) on Saturday nights.
I feel like he's taking the piss a bit?
I've never said he can't see his mates .. I just, he CHOSE to be in the army away from everyone - and instead of CHOOSING to see me & his daughter on his weekends, he still wants to go out with his mates?
Can someone shed some new light on this please or opinion?
I feel sorry for the guy that he doesn't get to see his mates being away all week, but, priorities? Especially at a sensitive time? No?

he's realised babies are hard and boring, try to stop expecting anything of him, you're better off without

Being in the army has little bearing on him being a pricl

You are better than this. Get rid.

I could be completely wrong but, I have a feeling you may be making yourself too available? Make very clear that your expectations are for him to spend time with you and your child on weekends ( which is completely right). If he doesn't act accordingly then move on.

The army situation is irrelevant to him acting like this. Any father who acted like that in situations with limited contact I would say the exact same.

So I'm not overreacting?
It's not wrong for me to think all his available time should be spent with me and our DD?
I have sympathy that he never sees his mates from around here anymore so I hate feeling like this when he wants to see them, it angers me!
The only reason the army comes into it is because it stops him seeing me, our daughter and his mates from around here - but at the same time I hate controlling relationships and would never tell him he can't see his mates?
I'm stuck really ....
I appreciate the comments about being better off, I'm mentally aware of that ... it's just there's a lot of history here, he never cheated ...... it's been hard to get my head around the other woman thing and I'm still trying but, wanted other opinions of his time spending etc?

Are you absolutely sure he's with his mates?

Yeah I'm 100/%.
A lot of stuff happened with this other woman & there's nothing but pure hate between them so I know there's no contact or anything.
He never cheated so I don't suspect he would, I don't trust him not to leave ... but I trust that he wouldn't cheat.

Anyone?!
We did the whole "mediation" thing as I've never trusted him with her, never been given reason to think he gives a fuck in 2 years about her.
But for about 5/6 weeks I couldn't fault him with her, but it seems novelty has worn off very quickly again.
Am I being selfish? Should I be expecting him to spend every available minute with me & her being that he's away Mon-Fri?
I know he's away from his mates before, and I refused married quarters as I didn't want to move away from everyone I knew & my friends etc..
But, feels a bit like, "I'll ask you to spend no time with your mates by moving away" I chose not to do this. But then in the 2 days he is home, he wants to go out with his mates?
Need to know if I'm being a typical selfish female here or just have others shed some sort of different light I'm missing?