I have two gorgeous girls 4 and a bit and 2 1/2 and have always thought that two would be enough for me as I sarted reasonably late (had first at 34) and never imagined myself with young children in my forties. Always said that I would have had three if I had started a little bit earlier, but not now.
Now I feel confused as I am surrounded by women in their late thirties who are fitting in 2 and 3 children having started even later than me and wonder if I have misguided myself. I have just always put more than 2 children out of my mind because of my age and now wonder if this is silly. Though I feel no great urge to have more (is this because I never let myself imagine this?) I feel a certain amount of peer pressure if you see what I mean. I feel blessed with two but there must be something great about having 3 or more if most people around me have this whatever their age. Maybe it's where I live. Have also being reading the threads on people going from 2 to 3 and most people say how great it is and 2 is 'too easy and safe'. Does anyone else think about being 60 though before the child leaves full-time education?
I would have been happy to start having children at 38 but now having had two I feel that it's not really necessary to put my body through all that again at 38 with the increasing risks, and also that I'm ready for the next stage - nursery and school, rather than breastfeeding and nappies again. But there is this slight niggle that I should have one more since I have enjoyed my two girls so much and well....everyone else is!!!! Sounds pathetic I know, but I think we are all influenced by what is going on around us. Anyone got any words of wisdom or can identify with this confused ramble?