baby called after dad

[demirose87]

Hi would like opinions on calling a baby boy after his dad. Having a boy in September, my fourth child and DP's first and last, as I'm having my tubes tied after he is delivered by c section. I thought we had the name picked but I've slowly gone off the name as I've realised its more popular than I thought. DP has a really nice name and we've both said it would be a nice idea to call him that name. What are peoples ideas please.

I wouldn't personally, but so long as there's either a decent abbreviation Dh doesn't use that will make the name personal to ds then you could.
(Nb will ds have yours or dp's surname?)

He'll have both our surnames as a double barrel name x

I like family names. Does it have a nice shortening dp doesn't use?

DP has the shortened versions, he doesn't really ever use the full name and ideally I'd like DS to get the full name.

I think it's a lovely idea as long as it's a nice name.

No, awful -- both arrogant on the part of the parent who wants to stamp a new person with their name, and also, really, really dull. Out of all the names in the world, really?

Also, gendered -- when was the last time you met a mother who called her daughter after herself?

Yes it's a really nice name x

If you both like it, go for it! It's lovely to have family links in names and if you'll be using the full name then even better.

Fiachra - I know a lovely, very un-arrogant woman who called her daughter after herself. Both mum and daughter use different shortened versions. Before we knew DS's sex my husband also suggested my name for a middle name for a DD. I'd have agreed if I liked my name. So in my experience, it's not gendered.

Yeah I don't think it's arrogant, it was my idea, not my partner's.I'm not just calling him the name cos it's his dad's name, it's because I like the name and I thought it would be nice, seeing as it's going to be his only child. If I didn't like the name I wouldn't call him it.

Well if you like the name then why not?

I think it's a bit boring but hey, not my child.

Also, gendered -- when was the last time you met a mother who called her daughter after herself?
Last week.

If you like the name then go for it op. I see no problem as long as it's not a horrid name that you're only using to make dad happy.

It's traditional to do this in Ireland, and is still quite common nowadays. I know so many boys who have the same name as their dad but go by a different nickname.

It's not my thing, personally and we didn't do this with our sons.

Funnily enough I don't know any women who have the same name as their daughters. Middle names yes, but not first names.

My son is named after his dad and my second after my dad. Nickname different - I personally love the fact the have a history to their name but I know not everyone does. But then, I don't particularly like other peoples name choices either (but keep opinions strictly to myself!!)

I like it, all our kids have some kind of family link in their names, be it middle or first names. DS2 has DPs name as a middle name but only because DP hates his name and totally vetoed it as a first name.

M dp was the first eldest male not to have a particular name in his family since 17 something-his dad had a massive falling out with his dad.

Our ds had the name-and the happiness that using it caused was amazing. It's also a very lovely name-I wouldn't have agreed otherwise!

Personally, I've always thought it's a bit odd. DD and I were discussing the concept of "Donald Trump Jr" only this morning, after hearing his name on the news.

Only reason ok if they can use quite different abbreviations such as both called William one known as Bill the other Will, or both called Robert one known as Bob the other Robbie.

It can be a bit of a nuisance when they are older. For example when post arrives or when someone phones so worth not just having a different abbreviation but also a different middle initial.

They're more or less different names. DP literally never gets called the full name, he gets the abbreviation that could be a separate name in itself. I don't want to say what the name is in case its identifying.

But what generation of women have you met who are calling their daughters after themselves? My sister is called after my mother, and it's not that unusual for our generation (mid-40s) and nationality, but I'd be very surprised if many 25 year olds in today's UK are calling their daughters after themselves, unless from a nationality/ethnic minority where it's the norm.

I always assume the parents have poor imagination. I'm a terrible judgemental cow lol

My dd has my second name as a second name-and it was my mother's second name as well. Her third name is that of her great great great grandmother.

My grandmother, mother, DD and I all have the same name, albeit some of us as middle name.

My DS has DH's name as his middle name.

Do it OP, I think it's lovely. And actually our DC love sharing names with us.

"I always assume the parents have poor imagination. I'm a terrible judgemental cow lol blush"

Interesting. That's how I feel about people who use "unique" names. Not enough imagination to realize that individuality grows from within, it is not imposed from the outside..............

Middle names don't count, they're not in general what the child will be called on a daily basis. I'm trying to imagine a situation in which it wouldn't feel odd to call out to my daughter across a playground using my own name, or fill in those name badges you get at some toddler groups, putting Emily on mine and Emily on DD's.

Bertrand, we're not talking about 'unique' names, we're talking about giving your child a name that's different to his:her parent's name! A child doesn't have to be called Gandalf-Rae or John Junior!

Another scenario -- introducing yourselves to new acquaintances when your daughter is fifteen. 'Hi, I'm Emily, and this is my daughter, Emily.'