Feel so bad taking time off with poorly child

[Thirtyrock39]

Just that really! Doesn't happen often but I feel so guilty ringing in and then feel awful for my poorly child as i always have a moment of madness where I consider calpolling them up and sending them in anyway (I don't end up doing this but crosses my mind)
Dh will NEVER take turns as he is main breadwinner has much more important job etc etc
I just know all colleagues frown upon it
Have seriously considered starting a new business as a nanny for poorly children as it's such a nightmare as a working parent then I think argh why do I even work if it's going to cause such guilt !!!
Sorry just rambling

I get this too, a lot. I've had to take so much time off work because of my kids. I love my job and I feel the guilt but ultimately I'm a mum first. Like you, my husband is the main earner so him taking time off isn't an option. Try not to stress it. Jobs have no choice but to accept it and we have no choice but to run every time they need us.
And if you start up that nanny service I'll be your biggest customer 👍😂

Jobs don't have to accept it. Co-workers don't have to accept the extra work to cover.

Your husband needs to take turns with you, that's very unfair. My husband and I always split our leave caring for our poorly kids.

Jobs have no choice but to accept it?

Oh but they do have a choice
They can dismiss you

Why doesn't your husband do his share? Why is your job less important? Yes, he earns more than you but could you afford to lose your job? If not, they are equally important.
DH has done many a conference call whilst a DC is snuggled up under a blanket on the sofa watching Peppa Pig or Paw Patrol - as have I.
I get really annoyed covering for colleagues who always take the day off to look after their child because they DH "can't" or the DC prefers mummy. In some exceptional circumstances, this will be true but it will rarely be the case when the child is next ill in a few months time.

DD0134 - why are you a mum first? To your employer, you are an employee first... unless you agreed some particular terms in your contract.

I am a mum first because as much as I love my job my kids come first. When they need me, no matter what is going on at work I have to leave. My husband works far so he can be no help in an emergency. What else can I do other than leave work when school or nursery calls and says my children need picking up? In my experience most employers won't sack you because you've had to take time off for your kids. Just try and make up the hours or swap with someone when possible.

We always share. Often on the same day - one of us goes in at lunchtime and the other comes home.

I worked somewhere for quite a few years that had a good few married couples. The line managers would have a fit if one considered their job "more important". Often it's easier to manage without a senior manager for a day than a member of more front line or auxiliary staff.
On bacs day a finance assistant is more crucial than a director of marketing.

We use a nanny agency (sitters) for when our DC is ill. I know there are parents who "couldn't possibly" leave their child with a relative stranger, particularly when unwell, but often we have had to make that choice. Not when DC is extremely unwell, but too unwell to go to nursery (eg a fever but still raring to go). I only took time off with him at the start of chickenpox. Otherwise, adhoc nanny all the way. We have to pay her on top of nursery obviously and it is not cost efficient but time off to spend with a sick-but-not-that-sick child would never go down well at my or DH's work. Sad but true.

I have the same issue - DH is a hospital consultant and if he misses a day's work then operations don't happen. I on the other hand play with a few spreadsheets and run a few conference calls :)

So far I've been lucky that the only absence DS (2yo) has had was for chickenpox a year ago. I'm dreading the dreaded D&V 48h ban if that ever happens (not so far on nursery days...)

We aren't all hard hearted like you Pops

Sometimes a poorly child just wants their mum or dad.

Interesting
I'm the hospital consultant in our house and I'm always the one to pick up the ad hoc childcare
I have to take unpaid parental leave for it though

Doesn't matter if dh is the breadwinner. If you don't share it out he will be the sole provider soon enough.

We have a rolling program at work were we can take carer's leave to cover sick dependants, I think it is a max of two weeks a year. It works really well as it is just like your own sick leave and everyone is able to be upfront about why they are off.

LoniceraJaponica What a horrible thing to say.

Aldi. If you read her post she was clearly having a pop at parents who "couldn't possibly" leave their sick children in someone elses care.

DD has had many hospital admissions over the years and there was no way I would have left her with a stranger if she was ill because I wouldn't have trusted them to make a judgement call as to whether she needed medical intervention.

I have had to take a lot of days off this year because one or other of my pre school children has been ill. But I always split it with my husband - it's not fair on my co-workers or his otherwise!

Lonicera I don't think she was having a go at anyone. I think she was making the point that others judge her by saying they couldn't possibly leave their dc.
She also says she wouldn't leave her dc when really unwell.
Am sorry your dd has been so poorly.

Ah, I misunderstood. Apologies from me.