Bit of background, me and her dad where only seeing eachother a matter of weeks and I fell pregnant. Still he has been a consistent part of her life and supports her emotionally and financially. We however do not get on and can't speak without an argument occurring, in his mind I am trying to take his daughter away from him and he doesn't like that. He is also constantly accusing me of having men around her (when I have NEVER had another man round her apart from family, I haven't even dated anyone since she was born!)
My 23 month old DD was asking of her dad so I told him I would like a break to catch up on work and his daughter would like to see him so could he have her for a few days. He said yes, came and collected her with his mum, no problem.
The day after she went, I messaged him to ask if she was okay. He then told me that she had drew a picture and when he asked who it was of she said "mummy and mummy's boyfriend" he then start accusing me of having random men around our daughter which I got angry at because its completely untrue. The accusations turned in to him threatening involvement with social services and court action, he slated my mental health (I have BPD) and said that would work in his favour. I have another daughter (who is 5) he told me that if social/court was involved then I risk getting her taken off of me as well (which isn't true as they would not find any fault) He then shockingly asked me how much money it would take to "get me out of her life" He told me that he loves her, I clearly don't and if I didn't want any hassle from court of social services then I would do the right thing and accept a payout from him and walk away. He is a professional athlete so he has a more than healthy salary so lawyers and court cases are no financial object to him.
I was appalled by this and told him no money in the world could buy that. I was disgusted in his behaviour and I asked him to bring her back. He said no so I told him I would drive to get her from his house. I drove 120 miles to pick her up from his house but no one was in, he then phoned me to tell me he wasn't there, he was staying at his sisters because she was seeing the family. I asked for his sisters address but he wouldn't give it to me and his sister read and ignored my messages requesting to know where she was.
This was yesterday and lastnight I text him telling him if he didn't contact me regarding dropping her home by tomorrow I would have to call the police. He text me back this morning saying this:
"I love my daughter more than you will ever know, I think it is best if she stays with me and so does my family. You're not well mentally, clearly you have been bringing strangers around DD and I am not standing for it anymore. I don't want to have to take court action but if I am forced to, I will. She will be well looked after with me and have everything she wants and needs and you know it. You are welcome to visit to see her as is her sister, but I think its best this way. I will continue paying child support every month so you can support yourself".
I just don't know what I can do. I phoned the station and they said as he is on the birth certificate and has parental responsibility there's not much they can do as it isn't classed as kidnap. I am going out of my mind with worry. I know she will be being looked after but he can't do this to me. He seems to think he can "buy her from me" which isn't the case at all. I literally do not give two f*cks about money, I just want my baby girl.