I am very fond of my Mum, I love her dearly. We have had our ups and downs throughout my teens, and I went a bit off the rails in my early twenties. But since becoming a mother to my two children she has provided me with unbelievable support, financial and emotional. She's been like a second parent to my babies if I'm honest and put us first before anything else.
It's only now my children are getting older I'm scared of the influence she has. She's constantly threatening to smack their bums and telling them off for being cheeky, and using words they don't really understand like 'consequences/abilities) and this is mid scold when she's telling them off. I know they're my children and I know if she says something or does something I don't like I should say so but although she's very controlling, she's just trying to provide me with support and help discipline the as she can see I'm struggling. I feel like I want to scream at her to let me do things my way, as rubbish as that is. I don't want my kids being brought up threatened with smacks. It's different world now and that's certainly not how I want to raise my children. Any advice on controlling mothers? I don't have a partner so nobody at all to talk to. 