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wedding on due date

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fredpenn · 05/07/2017 12:11

We have a wedding this Saturday - very close friends of ours - which is over 4 hours/200 miles away. Saturday is also my due date for number 2.

number 1 was 11 days late and I am only 3/5 engaged.

My dh thinks we shouldn't be going to the wedding but I do. There is a good maternity unit nearby if we do go into labour. He thinks its too much of a risk being that far away/a long journey.

any advice?! thank you

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chowmeinchick · 05/07/2017 13:30

Where would your kid go?

catx1606 · 05/07/2017 15:02

I personally wouldn't go. If sometime goes wrong and you need to stay in, you are 4 hrs away from home so DH can hardly pop home to get extra bits. You've then got a 4hr drive home with a newborn in a car seat. The recommended safety guidelines are half an hour so you might need to be stopping all the time to check on them. Being 3.5 engaged doesn't mean you've got a long time before labour. You can be 3.5 engaged right up until you go into labour and the baby could wait until then to fully engage. Just because you went over on your first birth doesn't mean anything doe your second. You could go early. I would stay close to home and try to relax before baby arrives.

TipTop333 · 05/07/2017 15:57

I wouldn't go for so many reasons but fruitboxjury's point sticks out. Say you're at the wedding and waters break or contractions start. They're not strong enough to be admitted to hospital. What do you do? Drive home? Are you willing to Labour sitting down in a car for 4 hours? What if you progress quickly halfway on the journey?

Chances are you will spend the day sat on the sofa, still pregnant with not so much as a twinge, regretting not going. But I just personally couldn't take the risk.

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Neolara · 05/07/2017 16:07

What would you do if you went into labour on the way there or back? I don't think it would be much fun having contractions on the motorway. You wouldn't necessarily have a huge amount of time to find a maternity unit.

Personally, I think you're insane for considering this, but I had very quick labours and by the time number 3 came along, deliberately didn't go further away than 20 mins from home. (Which turned out to be very sensible as she arrived in under 30 mins from start to finish......)

Bobbiepin · 05/07/2017 16:11

My DSiL is getting married 4 days before my due date and I'm doing everything I can to be there! Take everything you need for a new born and more clothes etc and research cheap hotels for DP to stay in if you do need to be there a while longer.

clarabellski · 07/07/2017 11:01

Imagine contracting all the at through the wedding breakfast

OP has gone silent. Did you have your baby?

anchor9 · 07/07/2017 14:39

well if you actually want to go then why not? this isn't syria it will be fine.---- but presumably you have known your DD and wedding date for quite some time..?

personally i'd be thrilled to have an excuse not to go

anchor9 · 07/07/2017 14:40

well that was a strikethrough formatting fail

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