Hiya, where do I start? Firstly, thank you for choosing this post - I am completely out of my comfort zone posting on here.
I am married, a teacher, and I have a beautiful daughter that words fail to define and emotions fail to comprehend. She is that precious to me. I had a much better relationship with my daughter when she was under 12, but then she developed a closer relationship with her mum - and that's okay. It happens - shopping, TV, girly stuff, etc..!
When she was 13 she suffered from terrible depression with suicide attempts and self-harm, and there were so many times when we nearly lost her. Hospital, therapy, agencies (who didn't always have her best interests at heart), and so many wasted years. I knew that she could pull through, and she did, just.
At 16 she became pregnant, and SS placed her daughter with a family. They effectively made us choose between our daughter and our granddaughter - and we chose our daughter. In the last two years she has radically turned her life around, and it makes me so proud that I could cry. I knew that she could do it, but there were times when I thought that my marriage and our family wouldn't survive. Dark days.
My daughter is now pregnant again, and I just don't know how to react. I lurch from despair and depression to happiness. It is easy to say, "just be happy", but it is not as simple as that. I am devastated that this is happening again, but I can't show it.
I have bought a baby grow and written a card telling my daughter how much I love her, and that I will be here for her. But something in me is outraged and disappointed. I want to be cool about it, but......I don't know. Desperate man seeks advice. If you were my daughter (19) or my wife, what would you want me to be?