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Struggling with 12 month old

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tintinenamerique · 04/07/2017 13:03

I'll apologise in advance if this is going to come out as a long moan but I am really struggling with my second child. He's just turned one and I have found him hard work fro

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tintinenamerique · 04/07/2017 13:29

Oh dear. Not sure what happened there...

I apologise in advance if this is going to come out as a long moan but I am really struggling with my second child. He's just turned one and I have found him hard work from Day 1.
If we are out and about and busy, he's an absolute delight and he can often entertain himself at home for a while, playing with toys (when I say a while, 10 minutes maybe before he starts whinging). And he really does whinge. He always has in a way that has made me wonder whether he's uncomfortable/bored/frustrated. He had mild reflux as a younger baby and I wonder that that has not entirely cleared up. I've had quite a few incidents this week where he will cough, either on something he is trying to swallow or because he has a cough and he is really sick. This happens at least once a week. Mealtimes are a nightmare as he often just doesn't want to sit and eat and he seems to be frequently ill with coughs, colds which always seem to make him sick. He has a bottle of milk before bed and one at 3/4am. I've tried countless times to night wean him which works for a few days and then starts waking for milk again.
I just don't know what to do with him. There are so many factors that are making it all so hard and I don't know where to start and who (if anyone) there is to talk to.
Any advice would be most welcomed as I'm feeling like I'm really failing (with) him

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Bobbiee · 04/07/2017 13:58

You are worried about him and doing your best, so believe me, you are not failing. Just some babies are more hard work than others. From what I understand the problem is a constant cough and not eating well? Did you see a doctor about the cough, if it last more than a week or two than you should. The problem with the mealtime is it resent or since when you started weaning. If he drinks too much milk probably doesn't get hungry or something upsets his tummy. Is he otherwise happy and curious little guy. If you are worried about him in any way best see a doctor

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tintinenamerique · 04/07/2017 14:09

Thank you for replying. To clarify (sorry, original post was v jumbled) he hasn't had a constant cough, he just seem so to be ill a lot and when he's ill, he really can't deal with life! He can eat beautifully, so, on reflection I think he's not eating well at the minute because he's ill. Wouldn't have thought too much milk is the prob as he only has about 5oz before bed and 6 in the middle of the night (which I would love to push to morning). He is happy and extremely curious. Maybe he is just hard work and I didn't realise how easy I had things with his brother??

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Heirhelp · 04/07/2017 15:29

My DD is 14 months and only recently has stopped waking for milk in the night. For this to work she needed 3 meals, 2 snacks and supper just before bed?

My daughter does not play for long by herself.

If you are worried about the vomiting then see your GP.

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tintinenamerique · 04/07/2017 15:54

That's really helpful Heir. Thank you. Would you mind posting a brief summary of meals and times you follow? Does your daughter have all that food and milk before bed? I find if he eats dinner at 5, then yoghurt he will take very little milk at bedtime (6.30)

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user1474462227 · 04/07/2017 16:34

Hi , my ds stopped drinking milk once we swapped from formula to cows milk. He has dinner at 5-5.30pm. At 6.45pm I give him a small roll ( Brioche) with diarylee spread. Bed at 7.30pm. That fills him up.

overmydeadbody · 04/07/2017 16:42

Perhaps you are just finding it all hard with two? From whatyou have said, he eats beautifully, is happy and curious, and sleeps well.

Is it just the normal hard work associated with looking after a child of his age that is getting you down? It will get easier as he gets older!

mossycat · 04/07/2017 16:49

I'd suggest anyone with these symptoms to Get a blood test for coeliacs. My 18mth old was sick wingy and had reflex lacked energy. We had no experience of it so didn't understand the signs and gps did not suspect it. What are his nappys like? Son now keeps to a gluten free diet and is as fit as a fiddle

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tintinenamerique · 04/07/2017 17:46

Overmydeadbody - yep, could well be. He is particularly hard with today because he's ill and I'm particularly tiredness because he's was coughing all night - all hopes pinned on it getting easier!

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Heirhelp · 04/07/2017 18:38

On an non nursery day she has breakfast at 7.30 30g cereal, fruit and sometimes yoghurt, snack after morning sleep, lunch at 12, snack after afternoon sleep, I chuck food at her as I make dinner. Dinner at 5.30 and supper 7.30 as she does not go to bed until 8.

I give her milk in a cup when she gets up now but other than that she does not have any milk. She has not had milk before bed since about 5 months as she would only take 2 sips for months. She stopped having milk after I increased food and we changed to soya milk from formula. Soya milk due to lactose intolerance.

I found that cereal was a good supper at first. Try giving it instead of milk for three days to see what happens.

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