Mother in law is making life a misery

[Littlemisshappy89]

Hi everyone i will start from beginning i met my amazing partner 2 years ago he has two amazing kids now 12 and 9 who i am close too when we met he lived with his mum and got kids at weekend she threw him out so he moved in with me since then its been hell she will fall out with us and say im aggressive with kids untrue which my fiancee knows then shell speak to us and same begins again ive been called dirty and all horrible names she even tried to say i was cheating on my partner at work i was off ill i have poorly controlled epilepsy and i suffer from severe anxiety and start shaking at confrontstions she tells kids ill get laura shaking.
We have just moved to a bigger house which is about 3 miles from her and it all started again with her my fiance told her stay away but he went a walk with dog yesterday i watched kids amd his sister sent her over she just walked in our home i asked her to leave and she says this is my sons house not yours and tried to kick me out refused to leave and put her fist up to hit me infront of my 9 year old step girl she was screaming his sister and mum are now saying me amd little girl are lying i feel terrified to go out incase i bump into her now mu partner now wants to move but i told him no im not letting his mum win i stood upto her.
The names she calls me is disguisting and even says it infront of kids.
She told little girl i dont love her because i couldnt look after her other night as we were moving and had no electricity.
She is a bully a liar she even asked kids if i ever hit them ive nevef as much as shouted at kids she has even told there mum im trying to stop maintaince payments which isnt true either.
I just feel so down amd alone and miserable.

If your partner wants to move why is there still contact, I presume he initiates. Htf did she walk into your house?

Can you involve the police? This is harassment do not tolerate. Your husband needs to go nc if she is going to abuse you like this and please lock your doors from now on.

Yeah he has told his sister that police will be involved next time amd he doesnt want her near kids anymore.
She walked in as door was left open for kids and dog to play in garden.
He had spoken to his sister that morning and told his sister he didnt want his mum near our house and she was to stay away but apparently his sister told there mum to come over but i think they saw my partner go out with dog and knew i was alone with kids.
I only always forgive her fir kids sake as i believe they should have a relstionship with there gran but now she has gone to far.
Yeah my door is locked only open wen dog need out my partner has told me if she comes here i call police.

At least you have your partners support. Trust me I was brought up in an abusive household there is absolutely no need for your step kids to see her as she clearly is not a role model for them and her behaviour will never change. I'd maybe notify the police anyway so they respond quickly if she tries anything again. She threatened violence that's enough for them to want to be involved.

Yeah i was in an abusive relationship i fought hard to get away from all that she made me feel same way he did only reason she didnt hit me was because her grandchild started screaming.
My partner always defends me the woman is nasty amd a control freak her problem is she camt control her son and grandchildren anymore and also im a easy target for her as im not a fighter i dont stand upto people but yesterday i stood upto her she told my 12 year old step son im a gold digger amd w how she works that out as she knows nothing about my past and my partner and me struggle for money.
She thinks its funny when i start shaking when she shouts at me.
Im refusing to back down im not hiding away and locking door in my home as then she wins if she does come back i will call police amd have her charged.
Ive had 2 years of being bullied of this woman but no more shes even phoned kids mum says ive turned kids against her but there mum says she knows what heppened kids told her and she went througj exact same as me.

So it's the grandma (DH's mum) who is doing this? If so, you and your partner should cut all ties. She sounds dangerous. Keep a diary of everything she says abd does and either get key back or change locks.

Also report her to police. You poor thing

Go NC, grandkids too as she's emotionally abusing them. Get the police involved

Yeah she my dh mum he stayed single for 6 years because he knew how she acts when he meets someone amd he met me she kicked him out for it so he lived with me and since then ive been called nasty names accused of turning grandkids against her all because my stepdaughter has an unbreakable bond with me.
Ive always been nice no matter how hurtful she is too me for my dh sake to keep the piece.
The woman is a control freak and cant stand the fact she has no control over her son now we are very happy together and i love his kids like they are my own id do anything for the 3 of them i bought my dh a puppy and shes even slating the puppy now she is dangerous i do not trust her and i never will i only keep quiet for my dh sake as at end of day its his mum.
She is very good at emotional blackmail amd bribes the kids with money but kids are starting to realise she isnt a nice person youngest is now refusing to speak to her my dh has told her if she wants to see kids she needs to arrange it through there mum but there mum hates her too.

Hi for you.
Next time she calls to the house ring police and tell them you have an unwanted visitor who is kicking off onfront if the children.
You shouldn't need to put up with that shit from anyone.
Also you have put your name in your first post you may want to ask MN to remove your name so not identifying.