Struggling emotionally - need some support :(

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DD2 is only 1 week old so I'm aware this is all probably just hormonal - but my God I feel so rubbish right now.

DD2 was a reasonably content baby until 24hours ago and now she's a crying feeding mess that can't be put down. DD1 is 2.5 and although she's adapting quite well she's getting a bit upset at how much time I'm having to spend comforting and feeding DD2.

I can't stop crying. I can't get any respite during the day despite having a very supportive DH and family as DD1 is very clingy and needing reassurance from me so I feel so guilty telling her I need some time on my own with the baby etc.

Feeding isn't exactly going smoothly either, which makes feeding long and frustrating. I fed DD1 until she was 1.5 and I'm a peer supporter so I should know what I'm doing but I just keep doubting myself.

I think I just needed to write it all down, and hopefully someone will come along soon to tell me it'll be OK ☹️

I have no advice as I only have one DS but I wanted to let you know you're doing amazing, it definitely IS hormonal, and it will absolutely completely pass. Every time I have a really awful day or night, I remember it's just one day, and it will pass. But in the throes of it, it's absolutely crushing. Much love and congratulations

It will be okay! no advice as such but i have a ten day old baby (second child) and feeling a bit down too, so sympathies! mine was also very calm and placid for the first few days and is now fussing a lot at the breast and crying so I too am doubting myself despite breastfeeding my first for three years! But as you say, very early days and the hormones still all over the place. I'm sure you're doing a great job and things will feel very different in a week or two. I have a four year old so also sympathise with the guilt at not being able to devote as much time to your first! Good luck and congrats on the new baby.

Thank you.

I keep thinking about how miserable o was when DD1 was small. I really struggled and she was such hard work, it got better when she was about 1 but is now as hormonal as me it seems!

I keep wondering how on Earth I thought this was a good idea.

It's shit now but won't always be. I'm struggling too with my second who also won't be put down and feeling all the guilt. Hormones and bad days will pass.

hi op. my DD2 is 11 weeks and Dd1 has just turned 5. I had a wobble at about 7 days too. it's quite a normal time for hormones to go a bit mad esp as your milk will have come in a couple of days ago. the feeding will settle over the next week or so. hang in there x

Thank you so much - it's nice to know you are not alone in your feelings.

We have had a much better day - DD2 has basically slept all day, has fed well and is quite content. DD1 has been really good all day too. I'm feeling much better for it!!

I'm prepared for another sleepless night though after all this daytime sleeping!

I also have no advice but just wanted to let you know you are not alone you aren't the first and won't be lash to feel this way! You are human, you are tired and your life has changed and it will take time to adapt and the fact you are even acknowledging that you feel a little off shows that you are mentally and emotionally still in a strong place and you are doing an amazing job! Congratulations xx