I gave birth last week to my lovely little boy. We knew at 20 weeks he would have a severe health defect and he's already had surgery at 4 days old. He's doing well and will have another much bigger op in a few weeks. Family were visiting daily until we both decoded to limit people's visits to twice a week to limit the risk of infection and allow him to rest and gain weight ready for his next op. This has gone down very badly with my inlaws! They want to be at the hospital every day. And tbh I don't want them there for the above reasons. We decided one rule for everyone. Each family or group of people have 2 visits. But now the inlaws want to come separately so that's 4 visits. I've said no for consistency. I hate that they are ignoring there are medical reasons for our decision and think their upset comes before our baby.
Am I being unreasonable?
I know if I negotiate with them the flood gates will open as they have 24/7 access to their other grandchild who's parents give them free reign....even putting food in the kids mouth!
I feel reallyou angry they are putting their emotions on us, especially my husband who feels upset and angry at them