Sleep. What am I doing wrong.

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3 year old always been a dreadful sleeper. Now my 6 month old is the same. Never slept through. What the fuck is going wrong?!

No idea but ds1 was a shit sleeper and ds2 is shit less shit than ds1 but still shit. If it makes you feel better ds1 is 5 now and has slept like the dead from 3.5. He sleeps though the baby screaming his head off.

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. As far as I know, I have done the same with all three of mine:
DS1 reasonably tricky baby, from 2 would sleep through to 5am then come into us and sleep til we got up
DS2 slept through the night from 5 weeks with no issues and transferred to own room at six months with no issues
DS3 good sleeper as baby sleeping through from 8 weeks but sleep became totally disrupted at six month transfer to own room and only fully resolved and stopped night waking at 4.

Do what you need to do everyone gets some sleep!

Fingers crossed there's some hope then x

Consleeping is working at the moment with both eventually in with me. But I just need some space and deep sleep.

Are the babies who sleep through from so young actually real? Are they drugged? Or is there a big secret I'm missing out on?

All three of mine slept from 8-10 weeks old. It wasn't a walk in the park but routine definitely helps.

Pls be more specific??

Routine can help as can lots of fresh air - easier in warmer weather. But some children are more bumpy than others. And tweaking your routine can be stressful.
You'll get there.

We sleep trained DS from around 6 months using a very gentle gradual retreat. Then once he was sleeping though we used a gro-clock to get him to stay in bed beyond 5.30. Both worked like a dream with him.

DD on the other hand was an absolute bloody nightmare. Nothing worked and she still doesn't sleep through the night. She's 24.

We're out everyday. Rain or shine. We do playgroup. Dance. Dog walks. Swim. Zoo. Play dates. Yiy name it. We do it. Honestly I despair. I'm desperate for sleep

We had a mind numbing routine of getting dd into her bedtime nappy with me singing exactly the same song at exactly the same time as I did it. That sort of thing towards bedtime. On reflection it was probably for my benefit- I had unpredictable health problems and clung to routine to get me through.
Reading the same story, singing the same songs.
Not for everyone.

I pandered and placated my first - still dreadful sleeper at 25. I sleep trained the other 5 at around 9months. Best decision ever - hard emotionally at time but meant from then on they could sleep anywhere and without fuss.

Sorry no real advice but have you got a partner who can relieve you for one night a week? Difficult if you're breastfeeding but you could sleep in a different room if you have a spare room and partner could bring baby just for feeds and then take away to settle?