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when did you move your baby out of your bedroom?

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xenabelly · 20/03/2007 09:50

hi all

I should be confident about this cos i'm on baby no2 but I've turned all neurotic and obsessed with cotdeath - my friends say it's cos i've got a boy (first born was girl) and mums are always more 'precious' about their boys...anywayyyyy...

He's 9weeks and sleeping from 11pm - 6am (what a star!). I know the HV says to keep him in your room for 6months !?! BUT our room is tiny and would be nice to not keep falling over moses basket etc.

My daughter was a great sleeper too and we moved her into her room at 7weeks without batting an eyelid - don't know why i've got all freaked out about it now.

Just keep thinking if he died of cotdeath cos he was in his own room before 6months i'd never forgive myself.

BTW: our house is fairly small, his room would be next door and we'd leave doors open nad have monitor on if that makes any difference to anything..

Thanks

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fifisworld · 20/03/2007 09:53

I moved ds out of our room when he was about 12 weeks.
He was getting to big for his moses basket and was starting to get disturbed when dp got up for work.
We put him in his cot and kept the doors open and he was fine, infact he slept much better in his cot than he did in his moses basket.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 20/03/2007 09:53

just moved both of mine out together now that ds2 is 6 months. didnt want to put ds1 out on his own and it has worked well.
i wanted them near me as like you say, if anything had happened, i wouldnt be able to forgive myself.
but like everything to do with kids, you have to do what suits you.

dunscared · 20/03/2007 10:04

we put son into his own room , at about 9-10 weeks when outgrew moses basket, did the same with his big sister at the same age
we left all the doors open and used a monitor too
both slept much better in their own room in a proper cotbed
try not to worry too much about cotdeath, it'll soon be replaced by another worry, then another!
realise now what my mum was on about when she keeps going on and worrying about me even thought i'm almost 40!!

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juuule · 20/03/2007 10:09

I wouldn't. But then our dd was a near-miss cot death (on her hospital record). It was only the fact that she was in our room that we picked up on her having difficulties. Six months isn't a very long time to wait.

MuffinMclay · 20/03/2007 10:11

I moved ds out at 7 weeks and, in hindsight, should have done it earlier. We both started sleeping so much better once I did that.

I don't think there is a right or wrong time to do it - just whenever it feels right to you. You can always try it and move him back again if it doesn't feel right.

I told my hv I was going to do this beforehand (goodness knows why) and she was horrified, so after that I just lied to her.

hoolagirl · 20/03/2007 10:18

Gosh I waited till about 8-9 months, I wasn't with DP at the time though and was mega neurotic!

Hillary · 20/03/2007 10:23

My dd1 stayed in my room for 18 months but dd2 would not let me sleep in the same room as her(my room) she would wake up and have a go at me (I probably snore) anyway from about 16 weeks she had my room and I slept downstairs, I then boutght a new 3 bed house so we all have our own rooms

DD2 had breathing issues when she was born so its was a real worry her being on her own, I had all the monitors and cameras (not that its any good when you're out for the count)

Ali5 · 20/03/2007 10:27

We moved ds out when he was just 6 months. I have to admit I had mixed feelings. Part of me was relieved to get my bedroom back (plus other things back too! ) but I blubbed when the cot was taken down and reassembled in his own room.
He also slept better in his own room. I think it's a personal decision, my cousin moved her dd out when she was 2 weeks old. Do what feels right for you, you can always move him back.

yomellamoHelly · 20/03/2007 10:41

Have 2 dss who were in their own room from the first day they got home from hospital. I sleep really well, but I do wake if I hear anything from next door (no sound insulation at all in this house so it feels like they might as weel be in our room sometimes). - Was up 4 times last night because I could hear ds1 snuffling with a cough. - I'd almost say it's a sense you develop as soon as you become a parent. Even in a crowded soft play place I can hear my sons the instant they cry or call me. Same applies if we go round a friend's house and they're asleep upstairs. (Maybe I just never totally unwind!) Have also woken when ds2 was too quiet and I felt he needed checking (more fool me).

LadyOfTheFlowers · 20/03/2007 13:37

just me and hillary that kept them in then?

Tutter · 20/03/2007 13:39

had planned to keep him in with us for 6 months as per SIDS advice

but after 8 weeks it was clear we were all waking each other up. we trialled a night in his room 9with me on the floor ) and never looked back

NineUnlikelyTales · 20/03/2007 13:40

My DS is 6.5 months and he's still in with us. In my antenatal group of 5 couples, only 2 of us lasted the full 6 months (both co-sleeping too). The others were about 3-4 months.

CarGirl · 20/03/2007 13:41

two of mine never shared a room with us, one lasted 3 nights the other a whole 10 days until I couldn't stand it anymore - every snuffle I was awake, my boobs leaked and they hardly ever woke for feeds anyway!

It's a very individual thing just wait until you're ready

juuule · 20/03/2007 13:43

And me LOtF In fact, my youngest dd (3y9m) is still in a cot(she likes her cot) in our room. But that's more to do with the fact we have nowhere else to put her at the moment

hotmama · 20/03/2007 13:44

Both my dd's moved into their own rooms when 16 weeks - wassn't planned was just a coincidence.

Dd1 was sleeping through - I still used a monitor etc.

Dd2 wasn't sleeping through (but was sleeping enough to not be in our room IYKWIM) and was still bf so would be brought in and fed, we both would fall asleep and then I would put her back in her cotbed.

I just knew when the time felt right - and the dd's slept better.

staceym11 · 20/03/2007 14:24

dd i moved to her own room at 8 days, she was a fidget and neither of us slept well.

ds is nearly 5 months and still in our room, mainly because he's not sleeping through yet and he'll be sharing a room with dd so i dont want to move him till hes sleepign better so he doesnt disturb her sleep!!!

if you are happy with moving the lo don't worry, its all well and good these guidelines but if it causes hassle/upset in your family its not much use IMHO

Lullabyloo · 20/03/2007 14:27

just before ds was a year old.

kels666 · 20/03/2007 14:29

DD was in with us until she was 16 mths. I was gutted to move her, but her new brother arrived. Suffice to say he's still in with us (8 mths). I can't bring myself to put him in his own room

wulfricsmummy · 20/03/2007 21:14

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snowing · 20/03/2007 21:20

One week best thing I ever did

twoisenoughmum · 20/03/2007 21:27

6 months - both of them. I just felt the need to follow the SIDS advice.

Runninglate · 20/03/2007 21:28

oooh can I highjack and ask how people find it getting up to feed in the night if baby is in their own room? Do you still hear them ok and does having to go in to another room etc make for a more disturbed night?

Sorry - highjack over - was just about to start a thread asking about this!

KathyMCMLXXII · 20/03/2007 21:30

6 months exactly, how sad am I?

hana · 20/03/2007 21:31

we just moved the baby out at 5 months a few weeks ago

indiajane · 20/03/2007 21:32

DD2 and DS1 never had a night in my room. Ever.

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