Has anyone had their child go to live with exp?

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See thread here for previous details

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=8&threadid=28881&stamp=040629215345

Basically afte lots of soul searching and discussion ds is intending to live with exp from august onwards, this is all lovely friendly, we are all friends and close, no animosity at all.
Hs anyone given up full time custody of their child willingly or otherwise, what is the hardest thing? How does it feel? Do they change?

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Just thought you may appreciate another point of view.
I was a child who decided to live with my dad when my parents divorced (my brothers did too).
It was definatly the right desicion for me but unfortunatly my parents divorce couldn't have been further from amicable and at the age of 12 i had to get a soliciter to make sure i got the result i wanted.

It sounds as though you are doiung the best possible thing, which is listening to your ds and treating his desicion with respect and understanding, which is very admirable considering i'm sure that it's hard for you.

If my parents had taken the time to do this i wouldn't have ended up feeling guilty and letting it effect the next 10 years of my life.
Even now my parents won't be anywhere near each other, which means no family parties, me not getting married e.t.c

Believe me your Ds will thank you for being so understanding.

Good luck. Hope it all works out for you and your Ds.

thanks lydia, monday brain again here

Thanks also Nutty, I also went freely between my parents after there less than amicable divorce and respect that both of them, allowed us the choice depsite their own issues with each other.
My exp and I have been separated since I was pregnant and ds is now 10, we were only really a quick fling with each other... ha haaa
But it has all worked out well, exp is taking it very seriously, buying a house near a good school, sorting out childcare for the few hours he cannot be there and factoring in travel to and from his to ours etc.
I am confident that it is the right choice for ds, he seems already less weighed down...
There are many ways it could impact though...