We live in the countryside. My next door neighbours gdd is out most weekends and my dd, a neighbours child up the road and the gdd have hung out on and off for years. There can be fights but we let them sort it out themselves. They can all be nasty/mean sometimes. I am aware that neither my dd nor the other two girls are angels at times.
The next door neighbours have recently gone up to the other neighbours to complain about our dd straight after the girls had a fight. The upshot is that they wont allow their gdd to play with our dd anymore. The other neighbours have now decided that when the next door neighbours gdd is there with their dd that our dd is not allowed visit and visa versa. Which wont really work because when the nextdoor neighbours gdd calls on them she's there for the day, my dd would just call in the afternoon for a bit so the other girl will already be there and my dd would therefore be not allowed to call be the imposed rules. The children are not getting a chance to work it out. It feels that the next door neighbours have successfully excluded my dd from local friendships and the neigbours up a few houses are backing them.
My dd is very upset as she liked to call up the road and enjoyed these friendships. We have advised her not to call for the next while. Time can be a great healer, though it may be a long summer. We will organize for some of her school friends to visit. I do find it very hard to even recognise/speak to these neighbours. What would you do?