AIBU DP slapped DD

[fuckinfurious]

Please tell me what you would do, my heart just broke and my mind is racing.
AIBU? I've been with DP for 7 years we have a DD(3) and a baby due imminently. Tonight DD went to say night-night to her dad and, for some reason, smacked him on the face. She does that sometimes and can never tell me why. Nobody has ever smacked her on the face, we always have a talk afterwards (it has happened a few times towards me but never towards her dad). Tonight she slapped him...and he slapped her back. I am absolutely disgusted. I put DD to sleep and then told him I thought his behaviour was disgusting, he said he knew it was wrong and to come give him a hug. I said I can't and continued saying that had he slapped me I'd be out of the door that moment, what made him think it was ok to slap our DD?? He said "fuck off (myname) you're just looking for a fight". I feel like I've had enough but the thought of depriving my children of their dad scares the shit out of me. He's not good for much, doesn't take her out or play with her but she loves him to bits anyway. I'm just so sad that he slapped her I have a million thoughts racing through my head. Do I let this go or not?

Well done op. I hope your family give you the strength to tell him to move out before you get back.

@Justmadeperfectflapjacks Thank you

@fuckinfurious
You sound brilliant. Please follow through with what you're planning now, give yourself that room.

You already know this, but for a big adult to hit such a young child is terrifying, and he's shown no appreciation of it. Did he mark her face?

Your observation of how dd reacted is very telling as well. It will have been frightening and confusing for her and if it carries on will make her start to try and predict when he will do it again, and perhaps feel she needs to fight for his affection rather than feeling are abs secure that he is always there for her. She needs you to protect her.

You say she's never been hit but are you sure he's not hit her before when you're not there

Well done op, I wish you all the best for the future.

Good move, op. I'm glad you recognise your dd's appeasements towards him, it was the first thing I thought of when you posted. It's sad that she's already learnt that. She may adore her daddy, but I suspect it's a sort of love that you don't want her to be too familiar with.

Enjoy your time with your family. Perhaps you could stay there for a few months?

I'd have packed his bags that instant. It's never ok to hit a child ever.

Staying because you love him means leaving your child in a situation that could further harm her, give her a warped view of love and parenting whilst showing her she doesn't count.

So he slapped her and your daughter then looked to him for comfort...think about what that is teaching your daughter for all future relationships?

Just seen your update. Well done OP and the fact your pregnant and he wont even give you the bloody bed in an argument...what a nasty piece of work.

He's a nasty bullying cunt, you're doing the right thing. You need to earn his respect?! He can fuck off with that little gem right now and shove it straight up his arse

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