Do you force your toddler to lie still or just cope with him/her leaping about with poo stuck to bum?

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I'm getting really stressed out by DS (23 months) refusal to lie still for a nappy change. As soon as the nappy is off so is he and it takes all my dexterity, patience and strength to get him cleaned up and a new nappy on without getting shit everywhere (last week it was in my hair FFS!)
I just totally lost my temper with him and feel terrible about it but it is sooo hard! I am heavily pg with DC2 (due in less than 2 weeks) and dreading changing two lots of nappies anyway and his bowel habits are completely erratic (3 poos this morning - some days none or just 1).
If I force him to lie still we both get angry and upset but if I let him get up there's shit everywhere and I can't get him properly clean. I can't change him standing up cos he's in cloth nappies with nappy nippas and extra boosters (wees for Britain too).
Please does anyone have any words of wisdom or even just some sympathy would be lovely!!!

I used to give my daughter something to keep her occupied, like screw and unscrew the nappy cream while I was getting her changed. It worked for us!

What do you use for wipes? Ds1 hates the disposable ones but will allow me to use a reusable one soaked in warm water on him without trying to escape.
Apart from that I either put the telly on and change im in front of that or give him a much-loved toy that wasn't previouisly out.
Otherwise any chance you can wipe the worst up as you take the nappy off.
I put ds1 in motherease pull-ups if I feel the next nappy change is going to be challenging (if we're going out for example), though they were expensive to buy.

I know you probably don't want to go down this route, but pull ups work a treat.

Could you have a washing up bowl full of luke-warm water that you dunk him in as soon as the nappy is off, that way he's getting cleaned without any particular hassle?

Also, it won't do him any harm to run around nappy-less for a little while (even if it's only till you've got the energy to put a new one on)

Franca - I used to do that but it stopped working months ago!
Yomella - I already use washable wipes and it doesn't seem to make a difference when we use disposable ones
Squonk - nice idea about the washing up bowl but I'm just wondering if it actually creates extra work and would be another thing to get knocked all over the floor as he is escaping

I'm sorry to be negative - maybe I just have to grit my teeth and dream of potty training

I put ds over my knee, face down and hold his body between my left arm and my body (ie. in an arm lock) whilst I take his nappy off and clean his bottom. Once he is clean, I will let him go and then chase him around the room to get the new nappy on him!!

Sounds mean, but he is absolutely impossible to change otherwise. If he's just wet, I don't care. The only downside is that when he had diarrhoea, I ended up with it all over my pj bottoms. But at least they're washable, unlike the carpet...

we either change standing up if a minimally messy nappy or hose down in bath.
Try to avoid changing out in public.It's a nightmare i agree and we have just had diarrhoea in our household