do i tell the teacher??

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So, my 5 year old dd is fully submerged in primary school girlfriend/boyfriend b***ks, much to my despair. Always the same boyfriend however, so she obviously gets her morals from her mother ;) anyhoo....she comes out of school pleased as punch that she and her bf kissed! When ispoke to her about the schools "no hands" rule means no lips too, i was faced with a tiny teenager expressing all the ways i couldn't stop her from kissing him again, by the end of the conversation she seemed to concede defeat, but that is only 50% of the issue dealt with. He is a lovely boy, let down early on in life (when I actually worked with him) and has now found himself with a lovely foster family and he seems to have changed his behavioural issues and life is evidently very steady for him, which is finally nice to see. That being said, he has displayed inappropriate behaviour whilst in the setting i worked in and it was apparent that he was watching tv programmes/privvy to adult conversations from a young age, so I know his boundaries and actions can be slightly skewed. In no way does anything with my dd sound inappropriate, just childish; but should I raise it with a teacher incase it gets out of hand in a way neither of them want? I was going to say "this happened, I've had a word with dd about the fact it shouldn't happen, could you just do the same with little boy?"--what you think?

You mention it to the teacher and they will talk to the whole class or mention it in assembly to remind all pupils that no kissing is allowed at school. My son is over friendly and had to be reminded many times to stop hugging and kissing everybody all the time. I've also banned the game 'boyfriends and girlfriends'. They can play mums and dads though

I find 5 year olds encouraged to have boyfriends/girlfriends abhorrent. I'm not suggesting you are encouraging but you sound accepting. Why are they not just friends? I'd certainly inform the teacher and the other child's parents. I'd also be telling my child that boyfriends/girlfriends and kissing were for adults.

Is there a typo, do you really mean she is five, or do you mean she is 15?

I don't know what you mean by primary school girlfriend/boyfriend b**ks, my 7 year old hasn't come across this yet. It's not a 'thing' in his school. I'm not sure it's really a 'thing' at all.

As much as we all know it's bollocks, be aware that to a small person their 'bollocks' can be very important. I remember how absorbing friendship-building was at that age.

I tend to disagree that kissing should be polled as only being for adults, it doesn't set you up for an open an honest relationship with DD as if imagine she'll kiss someone before the age of 18.

If it were me, I'd remind DD that school is for learning, and remind her that she is in charge of her own body and no one should touch that at school (or anywhere else without her permission).

I'd probably mention it to the teacher (not in an accusatory way) just to note that there is kissing going on, and you'd appreciate it if he/she could remind the kids that it's not appropriate behaviour at school.

I do feel for the little boy though, he's obviously been through a safeguarding process and I'd hate for him to feel bad for innocent expressions of care, but at the same time, it's important to teach emotional and physical boundaries at this age.

Yes mention it to the teacher. If nothing else it sounds like a distraction to her work and/or other friendships.

Really surprised at this boyfriend/girlfriend stuff though, none of my dcs primary age classes did that, they were just friends

Brought it up with teacher, as a "by the way, this is happening at school way", she said she was aware that there seems to be a problem with it being rife in her Reception class, so she is going to bring it up on a wider scale. Thanks for the answers. Yeah, the whole bf/gf thing surprised me, I remember it being "a thing" when I was at school in year 6 really, but for her R class to have such a high amount of it I am quite shocked.

I did not mean to sound accepting of it, hence me telling the teacher requesting some back up on reinforcing my issues with it, but on the flip side I don't want to squash a friendship with a child that, to them both, seems to be a strong one. Bloody minefield navigating your child's emotions. Wish I was one of the lucky ones where this isn't an issue in their kids schools.