Just had a Eureka moment - what a complete twonk I am!

[Soapbox]

Was cuddling DD I(8yo) in bed tonight which is normal bedtime routine - but is usually when any tricky subjects come up.

She said to me, do you ever get blood coming out of your bottom. I said no - do you - thinking she was talking of her anus.

I've just had a Eureka moment where it hit me that she was probably asking about periods. Gahhhh!

I'm post menopausal (early I hasten to add) and so it just never occured to me that was what she was talking about.

So tomorrow evening will have to start the convo about did she mean bottom or vagina!

I do feel like a prize twunt though - have always prided myself on being open and honest and straight talking on these kind of things and then lose it on a basic terminology issue!

Lesson for me - the word bottom has many different meanings!!!!!!!

She could have meant your actual bottom though - it can happen! Anal fissures etc. (sorry to be gross)

oh bless- good luck for tomorrow night, although hasten to add DD2 who is 9 and a half has never mentioned it so maybe your DD was asking about something else!!!! and she has an older sister of almost 13Yrs, does your DD have older siblings that could off passed on information! Mind you not sure what else she could be asking unless she had wiped her bottom too harshly!!!! sorry if ITI. Or she had heard other children talking!

Goodluck!

Bless her. They cover personal development in year 5 in primary and show videos and have chats!

The teachers told us that some as young as Yr 4 start thier periods. There are some good books around that can help, if you read together and then leave them to have a look at!

No older siblings but she did mention that it was chat at school. I think it was likely to be periods if I'm honest!

Yes - I've got an interesting evening ahead tomorrow haven't I?

I remember when I first discussed this with my mum at that kind of age. I was horrified at the very thought because I thought it meant I wouldn't be able to go camping!

There is a method to harpsi's 'vulva' madness

Good luck for tomorrow.

Just dont tell her that tampax are a kind of sweet(like my mother did!) It tasted bloody awful!!!!
You may find that she may only need a snippet of information, TBH , Ihave left it to my DD1 to vome to me and so far this has worked, at the mo your DD may only need to know that yes she will bleed etc but not for acouple of years!!!

Go on how DD is behaving, my DD started to get all shifty when I gave too much info!

VVVQV - I've just been sitting here thinking exactly the same thing - but surely it is the vagina not vulva in this case

SL - LOl - I'd gladly suffer a million more periods not to ahve to go camping

LOL yes! I think i'd use it as an excuse if DP ever suggested going camping

Bubbilicious - I will take it slowly and see what she is ready to know. I started my periods at 10yo which was very early. Perhpas she will be the same?

lol snowleopard, I thought my life was over when my periods started. it didn't occur to me that it was just for a few days each month.

Soapbox let us know how you get on and good luck!

This book may still be too old for her. Good book though, I have got it from my local library for my 10 yr DD. Its good for Girls point of view.

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