Please Help - First Birthday Dilemma!

[Quootiepie]

Hello!

It is DSs first birthday soon and I have found the PERFECT party things for him, but... they are in America and not cheap. I totalled up everything I wanted and it alone came £91, postage to a fried in America (they don't do fast postage to UK) would be about £6 (not too bad) and the postage quotes I am getting to send it quick over here are £12-100 (100 is UPS and the like). I cannot find this stuff ANYWHERE else (it is Peter Rabbit stuff) and the other option I have it have plain stuff, same colour scheme and try and do my own Peter Rabbit theme like look for balloons etc. Thing is, that sort of makes me feel like it is going to be second best and I do want it to be really special We are paying for about 12 adults to go out for the morning aswell, so it is getting quite high... but then I think "oh, what does an extra £50-100 matter". Should I just go for what I really want, or should I just well... not basically. Either way I don't want to regret it, he only has this day once...

Thanks! xXx

He only has this day once, or you only have this day once?

He's not going to remember it so it's more about what you want on the day

Personally I wouldn't bother (but then I'm jaded over birthdays now!) Until they go to school mine just have balloons and streamers and a tea party for immediate family. A birthday cake and then run around playing with balloons. Not much but then ime doesn' take much to entertain a 1 year old!

Sorry if I sound like a misery but you did ask

Have you seen this ?

Magic - yes that's the set! I hunted ebay, must have missed it... they are charging double the amount though, so would probably get it from America cheaper... besides I need double that. Thanks anyway!

Yeah, I think a little I am losing sight and making it special for me but I do want him to look back on videos and photos and see how loved he was (is!). Urgh, maybe I will go out tomorrow and see if I can get excited about anything in town.

ohhh
def don't spend tha tmuch on disposable items, he's not going to look back at paper plates and think oh mum didn't love me enoujgh to buy nicer cups and napkins'
honestly

Dont spend the money on plates buy him a real Peter Rabbit instead . LOL

Am that anyone would consider spending this much money.

Surely when he's looking back on videos/photos the look of love/adoration on your faces will mean more to him than the fact you spent an obscene amount of money on the trimmings

If you really feel that throwing a lot of money at it will improve the day/memories, then at least wait until he is old enough to appreciate it....

This isn't a personal attack...... just dislike the idea that lavish gifts/trimmings equate with love.

Right, grump over, I'll go back to my hole shall I

Save your money! Buy the birthday boy something like
this so he looks cute in his photos and everyone else can have plain pale blue/yellow/white paper plates, balloons etc.

i personally wouldn't spend that much on DS's 1st bithday. We'll be having a birthday tea at home for immediate family, with a shop-bought cake and some sandwiches.

DH was all 'he's not going to remember, we could just give him a toilet roll to play with and he'll be happy...'

But, it's not just about DS- it's the anniversary of us becoming parents and grandparents too.

We had a party for ds 1st birthday in Nov and just had Tesco 1st bday balloons and ballon tablecloth. his gran made a chocolate cake with a train on which we have lovely photos of. and we managed to take a pic of him with all the littl'uns (4mths to 2 years) who were there, which was LOVELY. You won't be taking photos of disposable plates anyway!!! Enjoy the party but what will make him feel loved (even looking at future pics) is people making effort for him not money spent on him.

Spend the day having a lovely time just you and him. Forget the world and focus on all thats gone on over the past year and how much you love him (and what a fantastic mum you are).

Having just done DD 1st birthday we did a home made cake of teletubby land with cardboard teletubbies as couldn't get the small plastic ones.. She smiled and giggled at it and then as Lact as said she was in 7th heaven surrounded by balloons. Am glad I did not spend heaps as she was obviously happy with her cousins , grandparents, parents and balloons ! Have some great photos as well.

hmmm, I guess you are all right. I think I will leave the expensive throw away plates More to spend on an actual present then xXx

Why not buy him something like this as a keepsake

OR this

We had a couple of balloons, a homemade cake, and a nice buffet of bread and cheese and nice little savoury tarts and fruit for family and friends who dropped in throughout the day. It cost virtually nothing and it was absolutely lovely. The look of absolute joy on DS's face as he had his first ever taste of chocolate was priceless. In future years you won't remember the plates, I promise you.