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Lost my confidence!

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Chosenbyyou · 07/05/2017 06:58

I have a 2.5 yo and a 4 week old. Thought things were going ok - as best as I could...battling on and trying to be positive despite the sleep deprivation!

Went out on my own with both and it was a disaster. Only to a cafe. Toddler was on the whole fine but did two poo's in the time we were out so obviously needed tending to! Baby screamed the whole time we were out- fussing and crying, hated the pram - screaming like the everyone stares out you screaming!

It's knocked my confidence taking them out as I felt embarrassed - baby was over tired I think but I can only get him to sleep at the moment by rocking for ages..not the pram.

Kind of held it together whilst out but was stressed.

I don't want to be stuck in because I got like that with DD at the start cuz she used to cry blue murder in the car seat.

Just feel a bit down xx

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HomityBabbityPie · 07/05/2017 07:09

Have you tried baby in a sling? Newborns are often more settled that way.

Silverdream · 07/05/2017 07:16

It's all early days and it was a bad moment.
Start with a walk to the park. Toddler groups where people are in the same situation or just a stroll round the town. Can you pop over to a friends for a cuppa.
It will get easier but sleep deprivation and exhaustion make the situation feel so much worse.

teaandbiscuitsforme · 07/05/2017 07:25

I have a 2 year old and 4 month old and any kind of cafe/restaurant has been the hardest place to have them by far. Flying on my own was actually easier than IKEA restaurant!! I'd say start smaller and stick to toddler groups and classes as much as possible. It does get easier to manage them both!

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ChangingStates · 07/05/2017 07:28

My dd hated the prom, try a sling, made a big difference to me. Horribly stressful pushing a prank with a screaming baby inside.

MalcomTuckerInSpace · 07/05/2017 08:42

Cafes bring out the worst in my kids! Maybe try somewhere else?

I like the library, you can read with the toddler while the baby snuggles on your lap or kicks about on the floor. Or the park, baby in pram/floor while you push toddler on swing, then they run about while you interact with baby or have a rest.

We also enjoyed garden centres to look at plants, pets at home to look at the animals, supermarket to get ingredients for a cake to make later.

Trick seems to be being able to move around when you need to and not expecting the kids to have to stay still.

I also recommend a sling for baby. I have a connecta which is quite expensive but suitable from birth to st least 18 months. It's also way more comfy than baby bjorn type which screwed with my back. And for the toddler, I swear by cheap sticker books to keep them sweet.

Don't give up on going out, it gets easier quickly!

Findingthisdifficult1234 · 07/05/2017 13:06

I have a nearly 2 year old and an 8 month old and only recently have I found it easier to get out with both of them. The early days are hard but you'll get there. I used to go out but stay very local so could get home quickly if was too much! I still don't bother with cafes though unless with my husband. Tried it once on my own and my daughter (nearly 2) managed to get stuck in highchair and screamed place down and woke baby up! Never again!

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