Mourning life before baby

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Is this normal I can't stop crying and thinking of my life before baby

You poor thing. How old is baby? Might you have PND? It might be worth making an appointment with your GP .

How long postpartum are you? Could you have PND?

The first few weeks and months are hard, it's worth talking to your GP.

If your children are older, why do you miss not having them?

Also, how's life with your partner, are they supportive? Or are you on your own?

Hi new baby first time mum she 7 days old

Oh sweetheart I remember sitting in a costa with ds when he was 12 days old and genuinely wishing I'd never had him and thinking I wasn't cut out to be a mother and could someone please take him back! He's nearly two now and he's amazing how you feel is completely ok, it's a HUGE shock and change. And everyone acts like you must be delighted all the time when actually you are hormonal, exhausted and overwhelmed! Do you have a supportive partner/family/friends? X

It's normal to a degree. I remember sitting with friends round our house when dd was about a week old thinking exactly the same. Have a word with your midwife and your partner, just so they can keep an eye out for PND, but a certain level of this kind of thing is kinda normal I think.

I felt the same as you for the first few months lovely. It does get better and I wouldn't change it now. Never be afraid to ask for help but in my experience it's quite normal to cry a lot at the beginning

The first few weeks are HARD. Day 11 was the hardest for me, it just felt like we'd irreparably changed our lives (which I guess we had) that night I just wanted DD taken away and never brought back.

Seven months later, she is the light of my life, she is such a delightful, characterful little girl, and yes, life is different (I still have to remind myself that she has zero respect for weekends), but I wouldn't be without her.

Oh bless you.

I felt the same AND still do occasionally now. And they are 13 and 6.

The first few weeks are hard.

This is totally normal. But could for some people be a sign of pnd. It wasnt for me. I was just overwhelmed by how much life changed.

I suppose it depends on how bad you feel.

Oh yes its totally worth it.

Completely normal. We live in a weird Instagram-ish world where if you express any kind of dissatisfaction with being a mother, or grief over essentially losing your old life, then you are considered ill.

It is completely, and absolutely normal to miss everything that was normal in your life before you became a mum.

It is also completely normal and understandable to feel doubt about what you have done, to feel overwhelmed by all these new responsibilities.

Good luck OP.

It really does get better!

Really normal. It honestly gets better. You think you will never get your life back but you will, within even a few months you will get into more of a routine, be able to do some things without baby, and slowly get elements of your previous life back. It also gets so much better once baby is more interactive, smiling, laughing etc and you can genuinely enjoy your time with them.