My exhusband has just told me he's got a child from a brief relationship he had last summer when our divorce was in progress (I left him after I found he'd had an affair (resulting in a baby too)). None of my business but he doesn't want the baby and baby's mum to be "dirty secrets" and wants to tell our DCs.
How do I handle this? I have no hard feelings at all towards the mum and baby, obviously, but I'm worried about the impact on my two DCs - esp the elder one who is still struggling following the split.
When should they be told?
What should they be told?
How should they be told, and by who?
So many questions...
I thought about putting this in parenting, but I think this is more than a normal parenting question as it's all bound up in my narcissistic exH's world of "drama", for want of a better word.
I'd be very grateful for any advice anyone can give.