I shouted at my son 😔

[Bethan2]

I shouted at my 7 month old son and now I feel awful...

I am having a tricky evening - my parents and sister came to visit today. I found it all quite stressful and was really tired come my son's bedtime. I got really upset about having to do the bedtime all on my own again (DH helped last night but Mon to Fri I am all on my own) and my son was being a pain, not keeping still so I could put his lotion and pyjamas on... and I shouted at him. He then cried and I cried and now I just feel like a horrible horrible person 😔.

I love him to bits but on occasion find myself pushed to the edge through tiredness. It's such a long day. I am on my own with him for about 14 hours a day while DH works. I am SO sorry for the rant 😮xxx

I did this once when my dd was a baby. I was exhausted and she would not go to sleep (as usual) and I lost it a bit and shouted at her something like "why won't you just go to sleep" then burst into tears. It is very hard op, I really sympathise. Tomorrow is a new day.

Try not to feel too guilty. We all have off days. He's not going to hold it against you, he won't remember it tomorrow.

Why are you alone with him for 14 hours each day? Can you go to a group?

ah don't feel so bad we've all had bad days. I'm definitely a shouter myself and have been where you are. He won't remember it tomorrow but mum-guilt will make you feel awful if you let it. You clearly love him to bits so give yourself credit for how much you have to handle and try to get some time to yourself when you can.

Thanks so much! We do try and make it to baby groups but we missed both of them last week as my son changed his usual nap times 😮. We're going to try soft play which is open all day xx

And thanks so much for the flowers 🌻🌼x

Definitely try and get out as much as you can. Fresh air helps a lot! Even just a little walk around the park while he naps.

Everyone loses it occasionally. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Walking round the park while he naps in the pram I meant. Just reread and realised it might come across that I meant to leave him at home!

Oh bless. We all have days when we reach the end of our tether. If you have family visiting then give them jobs. Even if it's make me a tea or amuse the baby!

Poor you, it happens to us all, all parents have been there. He won't remember when he's older

It happens to all of us, everyone has a breaking point! Luckily at 7 months old he won't remember or hold it against you. I had real trouble shouting when my DS was tiny, as the crying went right to my core and I found it very stressful. My coping mechanism was to put him down (somewhere safe e.g. moses basket), leave the room and take a minute to have a breath, swear in private if needed, then return to him afresh and hopefully less stressed. Did find it helped. I also made sure I left the house at least once a day even if just to walk to the end of the road for my sanity as easy to get cabin fever

Thank you all so much x

Welcome to being a human. We all have crap days and we all do things that we regret. Being a parent is hard at times. Don't be hard on yourself, have a cuppa