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Sociasling in the evenings ?

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Messymumof2 · 28/04/2017 23:03

Just wondering how often people do stuff in the evening such as pub with friends or partner /cinema etc and what is your situation .im married and work part time with 2 children. I probably out for dinner with friends or husband twice a month , maybe the cinema a few times. I feel like I'm out so much in the day with work and the school run that in the evenings I just cannot be bothered to do anything .

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Winniethepooer · 28/04/2017 23:09

Single parent. 4dc. Rarely ever go out in the evening.

If i meet with friends, its in during the day.

Waitingonasmile · 28/04/2017 23:11

Married & 1 child. I go out childfree about once every 3 months.

ThouShallNotPass · 28/04/2017 23:19

Married, three kids under 10. No nights out. We have the occasional wedding to attend once or twice a year.
Grandparents won't babysit unless we "need" them. (Such as appointments or Christmas shopping and the kids can't come with us) We did get to go out for our anniversary but had a call asking how long we were going to be.
I guess we could hire someone but I hate the idea of someone being in our home alone who's not a relative. Give it a few years and our eldest will be old enough to babysit her siblings.

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Cranb0rne · 30/04/2017 07:50

Never :(

Cranb0rne · 30/04/2017 07:51

Couldn't imagine going out in the evening twice a month. Just don't have the energy.

starsinyourpies · 30/04/2017 07:55

Our childminder babysits occasionally, we probably go out once a month with this and grandparents babysitting. If we just want to go to the cinema and friend and I do babysitting swaps for the odd evening.

fruitpastille · 30/04/2017 08:15

Similar to op. I go with friends more often than dh. It varies but probably a couple of times a month on average. I go out to do stuff like pta/sport as well.

Gillian1980 · 30/04/2017 20:23

Married, 1 dd aged 21 months.

Dh and I have been out 3 times together since she was born - MIL babysat for the evening.

I've been out for the evening with friends twice with dh staying at home with dd.

I usually see friends with dd and their kids instead of child-free nights out.

We could go out as a couple more often, mil and sil would both be more than happy to babysit. I could go out more with friends as dh would be more than happy to do the parenting. But I'm really not that bothered... I prefer nights in together instead.

Daisies123 · 01/05/2017 07:45

Married. DD 16 months, work part time DH works full time.

I go out two evenings a week - craft group 6-8 and Pilates class 7.30-8.30. Have to be in bed by 10 at the latest as otherwise I just don't function.

DH doesn't go out in the evening - would rather stay at home.

We've been out twice in the evening as a couple since DD was born for a meal both times. We don't have grandparents locally so lack of babysitting available.

welshweasel · 01/05/2017 07:50

Married, DS 15 months. We go out together maybe once every couple of months, by paying for an agency babysitter. I go out with friends once a month ish and have had a few weekends away with friends, leaving DS with DH. Having our first night away together this month, for a child free wedding. If we had local family that would babysit we'd go out once a week but we can't afford to pay a babysitter that often.

rightsofwomen · 01/05/2017 07:54

Divorced, 2 kids (18 and 8).
I go out a lot, does swimming and running count as socialising?!
I mainly do that once DS2 in bed and DS1 minding him, but will also go out to pub or cinema maybe once a fortnight when DS2 with his dad.

It's good.

Joinourclub · 01/05/2017 07:54

A baby and a pre schooler. Out once a month at the moment but it's an effort!

Lules · 01/05/2017 08:08

I have a 19 month old. I work PT. Been out with DH 4 times since we had him. I'd love to go out more together but it's tricky as evenings are too late for my mum and I feel bad leaving with babysitters unless I have to.

Until I got pregnant again, we went out separately about once/twice a week but I'm too sick and tired now.

skankingpiglet · 01/05/2017 08:17

Married with a 2.10yo and 10mo. We average a night out together once every 6-8 weeks since we had children but sometimes there has been twice in one month or nothing for nearly 5. We have no GPs to help out so are reliant on DH's siblings (who are mostly unwilling to help much) and friends, or paid childcare which pushes the costs of a night out to extortionate levels that we just can't justify very often.
We have nights out without the other to get a break when we want to, but I do really miss spending time just the two of us. We are going to try prioritising time out and shelling out for the sitter more regularly as we think it's effecting our relationship.

Your set up doesn't sound like too little to me OP. It sounds like the balance we're aiming for.

ElleDubloo · 02/05/2017 16:24

Married with two young children. The last time we went out was to see Star Wars Rogue One. That was when my parents were visiting so they stayed in the house while DD1 slept, and DD2 had not been born yet. We haven't been out alone since DD2 was born (breastfeeding).

Unihorn · 02/05/2017 16:28

Married with a 5 month old and a primary aged DSD who we have half the week. We never go out but we never really went out before the baby either. We are shift workers so when I wasn't on maternity we probably managed about two evenings a month where we'd see each other, let alone go out! My parents would babysit happily if we were interested though.

Figgygal · 02/05/2017 16:31

MArried with a 5 year old and 6 month old

would love to go to cinema or out for dinner or drinking a bit more but the 6mo isn't a great sleeper and we have little babysitting options

MotherofBoy · 02/05/2017 17:02

Married with a 2 year old and work full time. I go out about once every other month... for dinner with my NCT friends!! Any other evening socialising takes place at our or friends houses and we take DS with us. He either sleeps upstairs while we have friends over, or we put him to sleep at a friends house and then all stay the night. We do that maybe once a month as a family.

MissCalamity · 02/05/2017 19:16

Living with dp, 2 kids. We go out together every 6-8 weeks or so, my parents babysit, I could count on my hand how many times MIL has babysat.

We both go out separately once a week to exercise.

I go out every month to 6 weeks with my friends, DP with his friends aboit the same. However this month I am out 3 weekends out of 4 with my friends! just the way things have fallen...

Jennifaerie · 03/05/2017 06:36

Married with 5 year old and 2 year old DDS. I go out with dh a few times a year, our children both sleep well so we get time together every evening anyway. I go out with friends around once a week..sometimes 'out' out but often just have a glass of wine or two at someone's house. Our children tend to stay over at GPs as they live 45 minutes away and then you get a lie in too 👍😀

Oblomov17 · 03/05/2017 06:41

It always makes me sad to read these threads, to see how little people go out.
We only go out from time to time, but I think it's important to go out, and I struggle to comprehend why some people don't want to.

But, OP, if you didn't already know, yours is quite more than the norm.

n0ne · 03/05/2017 06:51

Married, working PT 0.8 and DH FT, one DD(4). We go out of an evening maybe every 4-6 weeks. Cinema usually. A meal for a special occasion. We also go away one w/e a year without DD. I'm currently 22w with DC2 so I can't see it getting any better anytime soon!

WipsGlitter · 03/05/2017 06:51

Married, 9 and 7 year old. We go out maybe once a month. I hate organising a babysitter is the main reason we don't go out more often!! Also I look forward to Friday night at home - wee glass of wine and the tv!!

When the weathers better we sometimes go for a walk in the evening with the kids.

Go out with some mum friends occasionally.

bigchris · 03/05/2017 06:52

I go out once a fortnight with friends and dh goes out once a fortnight with his friends

Only go out together in the evening once a year when kids are at grandparents for a week in the summer

Littlelegs19 · 03/05/2017 06:54

Married, 1 child 5months. No nights out. :(

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