would you just assume im a scummy mummy?

[hubbahubba]

ok so i have the odd fag.i quit smoking as soon as i found out i was preggars and stopped for the wholer nine months and approx 3 months after she was born.dont know what possessed me to start again but i was mega stressed one day and it all started up again.i have the odd one and i always go outside to smoke, come in, wash my hands etc etc.i would never ever smoke near my dd or even when i am out and about with her as no offence i think it looks bad.sometimes when i am out i will buy a pack and i just feel awful like everyone is looking at me and tutting.like i am a bad parent and i think they would just assume i breathe smoke in her face and smoke in the house etc etc.i even got a comment one day from a lady in the queue that smoking is bad for my baby.i turned around and said i would never smoke anywhere near my baby.i think the fact i am young doesnt help.i know i shouldnt even smoke but it is my escape, i dont go out and i dont drink.i am 21.

Do you ever smoke whilst you are pushing a buggy??

no way.never, i wouldnt dream of it.

Well.....If you NEVER smoke when you are with your children then I wouldn't think you are scummy. That includes smoking outside then coming in to them. I don't think thats right either. Fil does that and when he comes in he still stinks of smoke and his breath does too. I hate it when he leans right in to her and breathes smoke all in her face.

Its good that you always go outside. Make sure you go outside and not just hang out a window because so much of it goes right back in.

The reason I stopped smoking was that someone pointed out to me that it did not matter that I smoked outside and that she never even saw me smoke. It could kill me. You can get lung cancer in your early 30s. I didn't want to chance my DD growing up without a mommy.

Even if you brush your teeth/use mouthwash you will still be breathing nasties on your dd.

It's not possible to wash your lungs, and the chemicals you've inhaled will exhaled in your breath for hours afterwards.

You did so well giving up, is it not worth another try?

no youre right.i think im looking for excuses to carry on and im glad youre all telling me its bad.ive just ripped up all my fags and chucked them away.for good.i really mean it

Good luck

good for you!!!! I know how hard it can be but its that first step thats most important.

Herbal cigareetes really helped me. They still contain the tar so its not a permanent solution but I smoked them for about a month to get me off the nicotine. I also only smoked them when I started to feel desperate. They aren't as good as the real thing but they fill a void IYSWIM.

Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well done!!!

if i see anyone smoking i think its disgusting, whether they are a parent or not

oh just reread - well done for binning them, my grandparents have given up after 50 years - 4 months without - im really proud of them

yes I would assume that

you should give up

it makes you smell and gives you wrinkles

and tbh washing your hands makes no difference because its in your clothes, hair and skin

save the money and buy the baby a present - it'll give you an incentive

Save the money and buy yourself a present instead - you'll deserve a treat for working hard at giving up, your dd's treat will be a non-smoking mum. Good luck with it.

Have to say I hate seeing people smoking.

My dad's wife just died from lung cancer - she was in terrible pain at the end, it was awful seeing her suffer so much and she was only 63. If I had smoked, I certainly would have given up after seeing that (it went on for a year).

Try the NHS quitline if you need help. I agree with the others, save the money you'd spend and buy you and your dd a present. Good luck........

Well done, hubbahubba!
I think smoking is going to be banned in all public places soon in UK anyway, so life will be easier for you if you give them up. We have that ban in place here in Ireland for the past 3 years and it's been successful. It's great to come home from the pub without smelling like a chimney.

Yep, everytime I see someone smoking I make assumptions. It's not a good look.
Well done for packing them in.

ok so i stopped on monday, it is now thurs and i havent touched one! its all thanks to you lot, it is alot easier than i thought!! im so chuffed with myself!!x

Well done you, you've got passed the physical chemical addiction, now you just have to resist the habits. Once you get to 3 weeks you might find it gets easier (I did).

You should be very pleased with yourself, keep going!