shouold i tell dd2 that her main care person at nursery is actually a girl

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she is insisting that the lady is a boy.

dd2 is 4.

We got this a lot from ds when her was that age - he thought that the girl/boy thing was due to hair length. We used to have to go through lists of people and say 'girl with short hair, or boy with long hair'. Good luck - hee hee

well she has very short hair, no err boobs, and is very manly.

DD1 embarrassed me with that once. A lady who was boyish, like you said, no boobs, short hair, etc
Can't remember what she did, but I said to dd1, "Say thank you to the lady" and she turned to me and said, that's not a lady mummy, that's a man.
I just bustled her away saying, no honey that was a lady, she just has short hair!!

Keep telling her, (how will she learn otherwise), and eventually she might believe you!!!!

ds1 does that. He refers to everyone as 'he'

Oh! you made me jump!

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Tell her, calmly, that X is a lady. But don't make a big deal of it or your DD might get the idea that there's something wrong about being one gender or another, or about not being obviously either ie treat it as a little mistake your DD is making rather than an insult to the individual concerned.

DS1 referred to everyone as 'he' until he was abouit 4.5, DS2 still does (he's 4.1). They knew the difference between boys and girls, just not he and she - I wouldn't worry about it

so just gently correct her.

Yeah. Mine will argue day is night, but just sometimes, if I keep plugging away, she believes me................sometimes.