I feel Awful

[paulaplumpbottom]

My Dh and I always said we would never argue in front of DD. We have always stuck by that. Its not been to difficult because to be honest we rarely argue. But we had a humdinger today. We were really screaming at eachother and all in front of DD. She didn't say anything or act upset but I feel awful. I grew up seeing my mom and dad fight all the time and it scared me and I hated it.

but you only did it once.

You are aware of how awful it is and you have done everything you could to set down boundaries to make sure it didn't happen. Today was a mistake but nowhere near what you grew up with.

People argue and it is good to understand that.

Try not to worry.

Me too ppb My parents regularly screamed at each other. Sometimes I would go to sleep with the pillow over my ears.

What age is dd? If she didn't show any signs of being distressed then I'd gues she was ok. It's only worrying if it happens all the time I'd say.

It's not always easily avoidable, no metter how much we try. I bet there's no-one here who can honestly say that they have never ever ever raised their voices to each other in front of the children.

Take care x

Has she seen you make up and be nice to each other afterwards? Arguments will always happen, its not going to be nice for her but if she sees you're ok with each other afterwards she should be ok with it too.
I've done this too and yes felt awful but don't think kids are traumatised by it (actually they are too young to tell yet so I may have scarred them for life!)

She is 3

I guess we should have made up in front of her but we haven't gotten to that place yet. We did apologise but only because she told us we had to say sorry to eachother.
Its sad that she had to be the grownup.