When did you potty train?

[Salycinnamon11]

Ds is 2.4 years and everyone I speak to asks if he's potty trained and are really shocked when I say no

He really isn't ready, he knows when he is doing a poo but I don't think he really knows when he is doing a wee, I have had the potty out in his bedroom since he turned one (really have no where else to put it) and sometime he will sit on it but when I ask if he wants to go to the toilet on it he says no, and I'm not about to force it.

Bil keeps mentioning that his DD is potty trained, and we really ought to get DS out of nappies, but in reality she wears a nappy when out and when at home they try their best to catch it, but they don't always. That's not potty trained is it? Plus they have hard flooring and we have carpet

Is it really ridiculous he isn't using the toilet yet? I'm not worried about his development at all in any other sense, I wasn't really worried about the toilet issue until recently, it seems really wrong to force him when I know he just isn't ready.

What age were your dc when they were fully potty trained, with no accidents, during the day?

We've just trained DS at 2years,9 months. We waited until he was ready and it's not been anywhere near as stressful as I thought it was going to be. I even braved the cinema a week after we started. We had 1 accident on day 2 and even then he stopped mid wee to get to the toilet. He does prefer to wee standing up like daddy at the toilet rather than use a potty.

I've just started at 3 years 1 month - he showed minimal interest but we didn't have many weeks when we weren't driving an hour each way to work/nursery so decided to have a go during the Easter holidays. Today is day 3 and so far we've had three accidents and lots of wees on potty plus two poos on potty so doing ok I think, but that has required me to get him sitting on potty every 30 mins or so to make sure he goes. I'm a bit concerned he's still not quite ready as he doesn't seem all that aware that he needs to do a wee if I don't remind him but I'm crossing my fingers very hard that he will get the hang of it over the next week or so before he goes back to nursery! My mum has been dropping hints since he was 2 that it was time to start, but I don't think that would have gone well. I do think on average girls tend to be a bit earlier and more likely to suddenly decide for themselves that it's time to do it than boys, but I may get flamed for saying that! Can I suggest that if you are planning any more you don't do toilet training while pregnant - I'm not a big drinker but could really really do with a drink at the end of the day....

DD was 3 weeks before her 2nd birthday. She was summer born and I was waiting for a few days off work with nice weather so we could spend all day in the garden and not have mess to clean up. Within a week she had it sussed. She still had nappies at night for a few months after that but they were usually still dry in the morning. She is the youngest of her cousins so I was able to avoid the mistakes that my SILs made and learn from their successes. DD also wanted to be a big girl just like her cousins.

2.8 with DS and 2.2 with DD. In both cases we waited until they seemed ready and - crucially - I had a whole week off work with literally nothing else to do except concentrate on potty training. Both were reliably dry day and night within the week.

One big advantage of waiting until they are a little older is that you can try to go straight to using the toilet, rather than potty then the toilet

Both my DD were potty trained by 18 months, I just done it over about 7/10 days when we didn't have to go out. Night time was over a year later for both though.

3.3 and almost completely toilet trained and reliably dry at night. It's just poo we need to crack.

Didn't start till age 3 and took it slow and at her pace.

She has only wet herself once very early on, and only had one wet night in about 14.

I don't see any point in making a serious attempt any earlier. It takes longer and they have more accidents.

Extremely laid back ds just decided one day at 2.5 he wanted to wear pants then refused to wear a nappy at bed time! I was a bit panicked but he's never had an accident at night, and only once in the day when he was busy in the garden (although has overshot the potty a couple of times!) dd was 3 and we stayed in for 3 days and really trained her! She wasn't dry at night until 5.

Dd1, started two weeks after her second birthday, had a week of lots of accidents, then a few weeks of 1, sometimes 2 a day, fully dry in the day by 2 years 3 months, dry at night around 2 years 7 months. Dd2 21 months. I wasn't actually gonna start her but she kept taking her nappy off and wanted to do it, copying her big sister I'm guessing. She had been dry in the night for about a month anyway but was still in nappies. She has been completely toilet trained day and night since around 23 months. Ds1 is only 8 weeks and I'm expecting him to be a nightmare coz I've been so lucky with the others 🙈 . All kids are different and 2 years 4 months is still completely normal for them not to be ready!

honey eh? What are you basing that on? All kids are different and no, starting earlier doesn't Mean they have more accidents. My dd2 is 2years6 months now and has been completely dry around 9 months. Would have been daft to still have her in nappies

My dd who trained at 17 months had 3 or 4 accidents total. DS trained at 2 and a half and has never wet himself and he's nearly 6.

There are an awful lot of verbal 3 yr olds not potty trained these days. Seems the norm, so I'm surprised you're getting grief. My 2 yr old has been dry since 21 months but he is one of the only 2 yr olds at his nursery out of nappies. Similarly, my preschool 4 yr old has also been out since about 20 months but there are a few of her friends still having accidents.

Personally, I chose to train both of mine. Put in the time and sorted it quickly. I think it can drag on and on if you just leave them to their own devices. A verbal 3 yr old has no reason whatsoever to still be in nappies during the day surely? ( I left night training for later)

Agree with disney upthread and a few others. You need to clear you diary and just sort it, no messing.

DD1 was 2.9. She was completely out of nappies day and night within a month.

DD2 was 1.10 and completely out of nappies during the day by 2.2. She's now 3.1 and still in nappies at night though!