Do you as the parent get sensory overload?

[Misty9]

Two DC aged 3 and 5 and the silliness they get into drives me crazy. They wind each other up to a state of frenzy and just can't calm down when necessary. Older DC in particular gets 'stuck' on saying the same thing over and over again. Dh thinks we need to respond differently but I feel like I get sensory overload and just can't deal with the noise for long.

Anyone else ever feel like this? I've never liked noise and was terrified of hoover etc as a baby apparently. But kids are noisy so how do I cope?!

overwroughtowl I just tell DH honestly that on that particular evening I don't want to cuddle/touch because I'm 'touched out'. He's fine with it. It's usually a sign that I need a couple of hours to myself to recharge while he takes the DC out!

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Ecureil I'm the and as you. I can cope with the noise but it's the constant touching!

My DS is 2 next week and his new favourite thing is to be touching me allllll the time. I do love his cuddles but it's the leaning on me/touching me with a foot/always in my face.

He also has to be involved in whatever I'm doing. Bending down to look into a cupboard? He's there. Trying to organise something in a small space? There.

Though saying that my DH is the same. I often joke through gritted teeth that despite living in a decent sized house we all like to be in the same square foot. Dog included.

I've also made our bedroom a haven. I insist on it being tidy and often escape there.

Strangely enough Ecureil we did have that conversation yesterday, maybe this thread put it to the forefront of my mind. It was fine, she understood especially as I'm in pain a lot of the time and knows what way my youngest can be a bit of a sticking plaster.

Oh I totally get sensory overload!
DS1 has sensory issues and tbh in fairly sure I have the same thing
I can deal with loud noise if it's just one, but when there's a load of different noises going on at once my skin actually hurts
Also I can deal with the touching, if they just want a cuddle of to sit with their legs on me or whatever, but mine are never ever still, so they'll just be flapping and flailing all over me and around me and I feel like I can't breathe
I quite offen say to mine that I need some personal space for a while and they generally get it - except the 17 month old that currently has his face on my face and is singing - he does not get it!
Argh!

It does all get a bit much. The constant demands, touching, bickering, screeching and 'mummy! Mummy! Mummy!' Drives me mad at times. And I'm an extrovert.

I deal with it by getting dcs out as much as possible and they're usually calmer at home.
Like Graysquirrel, I love the peace of outdoor nature spaces and I will take them to places like that or send them out to the garden.
I also make sure I get time to go for walks or bike rides by myself.
I often go and have a shower to get away for a bit and sort myself out.

Ds is just like me and has sensory issues - so he covers his ears whilst making loud noises himself! Dd on the other hand shrieks and screams constantly at the moment. Roll on school and nursery this week...

I meant to put a film on tonight, but prefer just to sit here in silence. The chatter is irritating but I can generally tune out noise (I did half an OU degree in a soft play area). With me it's the touching.

Sometimes in the evening I need the cats to get off me I'm so in need of personal space. Today was OK but a couple of days ago you'd have thought me an unkind parent as I backed away from DD1 saying 'don't touch me.' She's taken to needing a hug when I tell her off and when she feels sad, and when she feels happy, and when she ergh. I know you need the reassurance but I need not to have a limpet attached ALL day.

DD2 (6) is a bouncer. Bloody Zebedee all day. Boing, boing. Then she'll catch you under the chin and make you bite your tongue. Of course she wants to hug me to make it better

It's OK. I have and I'll reset for tomorrow. And yes it will be a late, quiet night while I recharge; play my game; catch up on some study.