Presents

[mamma2kids]

DD is 2 soon and DS is 3. When DD was 1 we got DS a small present as well. I want to give him something this time as well as he can't remember his last birthday (July) but remembers Xmas and will probably feel left out, but I don't want to do this for ever. What do you do?
Also I buy them little presents from time to time (spiderman figure soft toy etc) especially if its something I know they'll play with but I think its creeping up. They don't complain if I don't buy them something when they ask but I don't want them to grow up materialistic. how often (if at all) do you give presents?

I'm finding this really tricky at the moment as DS1, who is 5, has his birthday in September, so it's a really long time between Christmas & his birthday. There're always things he wants in that time & it seems so rotten to make him wait. For instance at the moment he really 'needs' a new bike as his current one is knackered, but if we wait til September then he's missed a whole summer of bike riding. DS2's birthday is June so no problem.
Generally though I try not to get them something every time we go on a trip so they don't expect it.

There was another thread about this a while ago.

I have never bought presents for anyone bu the b/day boy or girl. Think that to do so could be raising an unrealisitc expectation tbh. Mine are old enough now (7, 5, 3) to not have a problem tho they sometimes want a party bag at their own party lol.

WRT other prezzies - I usually stick to Christmas and b/days (April and June) as we have sooooo much stuff.

Sometimes buy them a little summer hols gift or maybe a book at the end of summer term for doing so well at school.

I'd make an exception for a needed bike and just buy it maybe as a big b/day pressie early.

why cant you give them a bike as a present 'just because'? dd1+2 need new bikes, but i am not getting them until dh is transplanted, as i wont have time to teahc them how to ride without stabilisers til lthen. it wont matter if its not their birthdays, but because 1. they need new bikes, 2. it will be nice for them to get a present for no reason at all.

they often get small gifts throughtout the year, whetehr its a colouring book or henw set of pens, or a scooter.

today is dd1 7th birthday. she got a new scooter. dd2 had a scooter last summer, but today they both scooted to school and nursery together, it was like they had both got a new scooter lol.

with regards the OP, i think dd1+2 each got small presents on the others birthday till age 3. but i havent done this at all with dd3.

Thats nice misdee. I buy them little presents because sometimes (well quite often) I buy myself little presents, probably why we're skint!