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adath · 07/03/2007 09:40

DD 3.5 started nursery attatched to local primary school in January. There were 4 children all together who started then.

When I first posted yesterday I thought that it was only the 4 children that started in January that were not been included in all activities but from talking to other parents it seems to be a general problem.

One example is in November last year the children were given a plant pot and daffodil bulb to plant and letters came out last week asking that they were brought back in to decorate the pots but the 4 that started in January never got one. Yesterday dd and another little boy were upset as they never got one. I spoke to the teacher saying that I did not feel it was very fair that such a small number of children missed out. She said that they got them last year and dd would do one next year but as I explained dd lives in the here and now and next year means nothing to her she is 3 ffs. Apparently she did get a "special" clouring sheet to do but having coloured in most days that was not special to her it was just a daily activity for her.

Speaking to other mums this seems to happen a lot a child is off sick for as little as one day then they are not included in catching up on the activities they missed, one example: last year they made mothers day cards and only on little girl never got to take part in the little presentation they did to the mums and she had only missed one day of nursery.

Now I do appreciate that they have to keep moving and they are often pushed for time and cannot have every shild who has missed days to do everything but a little effort could be made to at least have something similar to do, this has happened with plate painting (one child missed out as they started the day before and finished the day she came back.) etc etc.

Teacher also informed me that they don't like them starting in January and in all honesty I would not have sent her if I knew that because I feel she and the other 3 are segregated somewhat from activities.

The teacher was pretty aggressive in her manner and I fel I was not taken seriously at all, this is my daughter we are talking about so if I am concerned I will say something. I just do not like the staff and after 2 months do't feel that dd is enjoying it as much as she should, I put a lot of her behaviour down to settling in but nothing is improving and I am so stressed about it all the time ATM.

I am tepmted to wait until the holidays and pull her out but the problem their is I live in the Highlands and this is the only nursery in my catchment area so would have to try and get her a place outiwth.

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fireflyfairy2 · 07/03/2007 09:45

I wouldn't bother with nursery in that case.

I'd pull her out & let her stay at home.

If the teacher is aggressive to you, an adult, what is she like with these small children??

adath · 07/03/2007 09:49

The problem with that is she would go mad at home, she is a social butterfly and loves the social aspect of having friends at nursery.
Don't get me wrong I think in general they are fantstic with the kids but her arsey attitude to any criticism was what peed me off.
I am just finding this ao stressful this is my first dealings with my children at school and I never thought it would be like this.

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Bozza · 07/03/2007 09:58

This is a nursery attached to a primary school? So could you approach the headteacher regarding this issue?

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adath · 07/03/2007 10:06

Yes attatched to a primary school, I would have rather not had to get that far but I am thinking I might have to.

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Bozza · 07/03/2007 10:11

Do other parents agree with you? Is there a consensus of opinion? I see how you are feeling about this issue, but it would be better for your DD longterm if she stayed at that nursery because presumably she will be going to the school.

I don't think a quiet word with the Head is as drastic as withdrawing DD which is the main other suggestion on here.

adath · 07/03/2007 10:34

Yes other parents have had similar issues with present and previous children ther too.

I wouldn't do something as drastic as remove her without first approaching the head just wanted this sorted without that. She will probably go to that primary but I would cosider making other arrangements for her until then not ecessarily another school nursery.

I am now stressing that the teachers have me marked down as a certain type of mum now and I know they will be funny with me now and that pees me off they are supposed to be professionals.

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