Would like opinions on teachers attitude

[sugerbones]

I posted a few days ago about my son (6) being attacked by another child and needing to go to a&e and have his head glued...

Well a few weeks ago he was attacked by a different kid, smacked in the face and kicked...teacher said it was because my son wound him up...I still wasn't happy but left it.

Tonight my son came out of school upset again, this same kid had kicked him repeatedly in the leg, he had bruises to show for it. I asked the teacher what had happened and she said "they had a bit of a quarrel but I have told Dan (my son) to stay away from X..." I then asked why he'd attacked him, she asked my son who said he didn't know so she said to me "well he must've said something to him to make him react like that". Surely whether he said something or not he still shouldn't get away with attacking other kids???

Anyway a little girl came up and said that X had taken my sons dinosaur book and went back into the classroom with it, my son followed him and that's the last she saw of them... that's when my son emmerged upset.

Opinions please...seems to me that the kids in this class have been given free reign to kick the shit out of my son whenever they feel like it because he's been in trouble a few times himself...

I was amazed when I read your son's age - I thought you were talking about a teenager. It is totally unacceptable for a six year old to be attacked at school and it sounds like the teachers are in such a war zone that they've forgotten what's normal. I got my son out of his school when he was five, because I was so upset by the change in his behaviour. Later he
was able to tell me that he'd been surrounded by older boys in the playground, pushing him from one to the other and calling him 'fuckhead'. Don't accept that this is normal - it's not, it's outrageous.

I agree with Steinermum - this is NOT acceptable at all. If an adult had had any of those things you have decribed done to him then he would quite rightly go to the police & have the other party or paties charged with assault. For a teacher to not even look into why the latest incident had ocurred is shockingly bad & I would have serious reservations about leaving a child of mine in her care. Your son is being bullied & attacked & she is doing nothing to stop or help him

i'm pretty stunned- i wouldn't be happy and would speak to the head to be honest. even if your son 'wound him up', that doesn't mean this child's response was ok.

when my brother was small he was being hit by the class bully alot- my mother asked the teacher why nothing was being done, and she responded that they 'were as bad as each other' so she left them to it. My mother went to the head, who wiped the floor with the teacher in front of her!

I think it is shocking that the teacher was so dismissive about physical violence, it does not matter what your son did to wind him up a response like that is totally unacceptable.
I have found this sometimes that teachers are less likely to stick up for children who have previously been in trouble with a they brought it on themselves attitude. It is totally unacceptable and no incentive for a shild to behave wee as they will feel that if they are being blamed anyway they might as well do the crime.

We are having similar issues with our DSs school. My DS has been roughed up by different children and not a lot is being done about (i.e. nothing!).

We have now made the decision to look at other schools for our child as the school has a duty to keep children safe and it is not.

Lots of other non-related issues as well which I won't go into but if you are not happy raise merry hell or go elsewell, we did the former and it has got us no where.

First step should be a letter to the head outlining the incidents and the teacher's response and requesting a meeting to deal with it. Also request a copy of the school's anti-bullying policy - they are required to have this.
At the meeting state your concerns and ask them to come up with an action plan to deal with them within a stated period of time (two weeks should be ample).
If no meeting or no action plan is forthcoming write to the chair of governors asking that the matter is raised with the head.