DS2 (4) has his 'friend' round and I'm scared of them......

[NormaSnorks]

OK, maybe not completely, but am certainly feeling like I am a prisoner in my own home.

This little boy (also 4) is a family friend, and previously he and DS have always got on well, but over the last couple of months he's become a thug!

SO far today we've had:

• him punch me in the chest when I tried to check his seatbelt
• him throwing toys down on me from upstairs
• lots of door-slamming from both of them, and said child shouting at me, "Where's my drink?!"

I went into DS2's room and told them that I expected them to cam down/ play quietly and behave, or else I was taking X home early. It's a bit better now, but I still feel like I'm hiding here in the study, hoping they're not trashing stuff

Surely this can't be right?

have you mentioned anything to his mum?
I look after Ds friend/ my friends son and when I do I treat him like I would DS including time out and friend does the same if my DS is at her house.

I would treat him just like you would treat your own in the same circumstances.

Isolate little thug for a few mins and tell him he will be taken home unless he can calm down.

Is it friend child being like this? If it was, he wouldn't be coming round to mine again. AND I'd be having a word with his parents about his behaviour. It's not on and YOUR DS will be picking up on it - the last thing you want.
Take child home early and tell his folks he's not to come round again till he learns to behave

No - I haven't said anything, but I will if it continues. I'd be shocked if I thought one of my kids would ever dare hit and adult. I think part of the problem is we've known him since he was 6 months old, so we're almost like 'extended family' , and 'familiarity breeds contempt' and all that...

Say something, the longer you let it continue the more he will think it's acceptable!

Definitely say something! I would be mortified if my ds behaved like that for someone else and would be happy for them to deal with it in the same way as I would myself. Maybe have a chat with Mum along the lines of "in case ds ever misbehaves for you this is how I deal with him so that you know and can be consistent with me, and here's permission to do it" sort of thing then say "what do you usually do?" then at least you'll make her aware that you are dealing with her son but in a way that she would be happy with.

good luck!

I know exactly how you feel, whenever my son has his friends over I always feel like a prisoner...I feel like I'm restricted to the living room in order to keep out of X's way, silly I know but I'm not great with other peoples kids, if I had my way we would never have anyone over.