How would you describe your parenting style?

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I find different parenting styles/child development really interesting, and was wondering if anyone would like to share what their parenting 'style' is (if anything)? I don't believe that there is one right way to do things or anything, as all children are so unique.

DD is only 9 months, but I would say I try to follow my instincts and I also love a lot of gentle parenting. I've also been looking into things such as Montessori and Reggio Amelia a lot.

Montessori is very structured and lacking in creativity. I am always surprised that so-called attachment/gentle parenting types go for such an educational philosophy.

One my ex hates.
I get my kids through the day fed, washed and clothed. If no one is dead it's a bonus. .

Relaxed! I'm not a big believer in firm routines as I think there is so much older childhood/ adult life dictated by routine so I/we take a pretty relaxed approach to feeding/bedtime/playtime and life in general. But I am firmer with things I feel are important at a young age such as good manners/sharing/being kind and basic hygiene etc. I feel we've got the balance right for us, no regrets at all.

Relaxed. Non-authoritarian. Child led. Anti-heliicopter. More carrot than stick.

Unconditional parenting - this is what I attempt anyway. I don't manage it all the time but it's my ideal.

Strict but fun.

Winging it then panicking and asking my mum

DC are 6&4. Because of our circumstances (live in massive apartment complex with approx 500 children in it and dedicated commual play space and I WOH) I think I've fallen into a hands off style because the DC have always had other kids around and the nannies like to get together a lot, so they haven't needed me to intervene in their play as much as if we were living in a detached house in home counties.

I would say my style is facilitative. I encourage them to try a lot of different things, be adventurous and get comfortable with failure. Dh thinks I'm reckless- I think he's too cautious . Sometimes I worry that not enough "parenting" has happened but their behaviour is good (not just me saying that) and they both do well socially, I think largely due to spending a lot of time in a "lightly supervised" peer environment- DS should become a hostage negotiator when he's older .

My nns are screentime (ipads on planes only), mandarin lessons, table manners and reading. Bad behaviour has consequences, and I follow through and weather the hate of week long TV bans.

I think to an extent your parenting style depends on your personality- I could never do attachment/ unconditional parenting. It's just not me, but tbh, especially in respect of DC1, they werent an attachment kid.

Benevolent dictator with Bribery and Corruption as a back up! I'm happy to use chocolate buttons for potty training, reward effort rather than attainment in all things, tell them they are loved and cherished, praise specific things/actions as well.

But... it's my way or the extremely hard way, I have high expectations of behaviour and responsibility. With 4 DC under 10, working part time with a DH who is away a lot, we mostly don't have time for democracy in our house! Though I try to listen to their feelings/opinions, even if I can't facilitate them.

I'm not sure I have a "style".

I do remember thinking I'd be a certain type of parent and do certain things in the mother books.

Sadly ds didn't read those books and has ASD.

I do like the Montessori approach. I like the approach of guiding towards appropriate behaviour and being aware how your behaviour effects others.